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Life can be a Pain

DecadianSenior Contributor07 Feb 2017, 1:19 pm AEDT

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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TABSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 4:35 pm AEST

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You’re one smart cookie @Owlunar 😀

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utopiaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 5:13 pm AEST

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@Owlunar. Yes stress can certainly affect our blood pressure. It can affect all parts of our body and mind. That's why it's so important to meditate or be mindful or do yoga or exercise and do self care. Anything that helps reduce stress is a good thing.
I wanted to spend time with my sons girlfriend, as we haven't really chatted before. But at the same time I was so tired and knew I wouldn't get in a nap - so yes, my stress levels were up. But I never expected it would have worn me out so much. I'm obviously out of practice with socialising.
She is a really lovely girl. Stubborn and knows her own mind, just like my son. So she stands up to him if he does something she doesn't like. Just found out she plays footy. Last year we finally got a women's league going in the local shires. And the public are really supporting it. Before this, once a girl turns 14 - she had to stop playing footy.
She's very smart. Gets excellent school grades. And has a naughty sense of humour like me.
I got the day wrong today. I woke up thinking it's Saturday. So I rushed to the shops before they closed at 12.30 (small country town). So I didn't go to the library and get any new books to read. Later on, I checked with my son. Yep, it's Friday. Lol.
Just dropped him off at work. Working 5 til anout 8.30 tonight. He's worked everyday this week. I'm proud of him.

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TABSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 5:32 pm AEST

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Sounds like a good boy @utopia 😀 I remember you saying you were worrying about how you were a while back might have been affecting him.
Not much to worry about there sounds.
Bask in your glory, mum 😀

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utopiaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 6:25 pm AEST

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Thank you @TAB. But I think I'll always worry a bit. Think it's built into a parents DNA. lol.
He's doing well at school & music. And now with work. Considering what he's been through with my mental health and hospital stays, he's a pretty resilient boy.

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TABSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 6:35 pm AEST

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I know @utopia I was just saying And you were more part of that re positives than the other stuff

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TABSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:05 pm AEST

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Oh., um resilience is most important thing one can have esp in capitalist monetaristic society.. something am only just learning as opposed to thinking of reasons to say its all too hard and walking away lol ok maybe I’ll grow up one day lool @utopia

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utopiaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:44 pm AEST

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@TAB. Well my son is studying Economics - so he's probably going to work in that capatalist monetarist society. Lol. He's the opposite of me

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TABSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:49 pm AEST

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So long as he’s happy @utopia lol

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utopiaSenior Contributor06 Apr 2018, 8:54 pm AEST

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That's my attitude @Owlunar. If he studies what he is interested in - then he may be one of the lucky ones - and work in a job he loves - when older

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