Life can be a Pain

So true @utopia

Men do seem to suffer more though and some weeks back it was a subject on The Project - and the outcome - apparently man-flu is real and men are really a lot sicker with flu of the same degree of suffering than women

It's because we have more estrogen generally and it helps us - and we need that because there is no time out for mothers - the man of the family can lay low and moan gently when his equally ill wife tends the children - does the housework, often works outside the home etc on and on - and thought man-flu was a fact but not so

So the hormone which gives us all this difference - oh wow - the one we need to do the hardest job of all - bring a new life into the world - makes us physically weaker and smaller and we suffer less from the flu - ever get the feeling we can't win

I told my uncle this - he was amazed - I was asked where I learn all the information I have - that's easy - I watch docos and similar programmes and then look things up on the internet and I have a memory to envy -

So - we can rearrange our ideas and men -'em - can too because man-flu is real. And when I went searching for clipart I found another site telling me about it

I hope no one is devastated - and we will be kind to you guys here when you are crook

Dec

Yes - thanks @outlander

The important parts of the day went well - the new doctor was okay about my medication and my daughter - more importantly - had her operation and was home really fast afterwards

I got the jitters during the afternoon - I know what was causing them - that doesn't make them any easier - anything to do with my medication makes me uneasy - and I had the TV on for background noise and heard an argument about my kind of medication and thought - "Can they not talk about something else?"

So I turned the TV off and tried to do something else - but alas - I have too much on my mind lately - the days I had to myself were pretty peaceful but now reality returns and my stress goes - way up.

How has your day been - do your sisters go back to school this week - here it's already school holidays. The battery in my watch is flat and I need to go to the mall for another one but I don't go there in the holidays and it's amazing how often I look at my wrist and really miss my watch

But this is life and I hope the holidays are not too rough on you - do you go to your mothers place to babysit or do they come to your house?

And how is your sore hand - have you got broken fingers or are the bones in the wrist bruised? - it's a pest to have sore hands because they mean we can't do all we are needing to -

And how is your Pop -- did he have a good holiday over Easter? -

Btw it suddenly occurred to me - we are in the same class of people - we are accident-prone - I bet you are tall and inclined to be lanky - that's me - my extra weight from being just plain older and less active doesn't change the long arms and legs and broad shoulders etc - I just have trouble fitting myself into small places - I never can keep my arms and legs still and knock things over, drop things - just a general klutz - all those who are accident prone - you are in good company

Dec

I understand @outlander - I fell asleep on the computer - definitely time to go to bed

It is important to at least get into a restful situation even if you think you mightn't sleep - so now is the time to go as I am - and tomorrow will be fine to answer

Goodnight and get as much sleep as possible - I intend to -

Dec

Thanks @utopia

If that's the man-flu one - I think it's so true - my ex and the flu - I would have cared if he had taken one headache tablet - but alas he did not want to do that

But can us girls win? Are we really tougher in some ways because of estrogen?

And yes - when I last posted I forgot what you said that drug trials were performed with men and women do have different physical and emotional reactions - that makes us different in many ways and

I do often wonder why and how women became the inferior members of society because it seems that has been the case forever - a lot of primitive tribles treat the women as second class - aw - that is hard

Maybe being treated as different and somehow "less than" is one reason women seem more represented in the Mental Health Department - we have more people in hospitals with MI - more women take psychotrophic prescription drugs

But then - this doesn't mean men don't suffer - ask them - they are worse when they get the flu and has science helped us but telling us estrogen helps us

After a long, quiet and private weekend I have a busy week - how are you feeling today?

Dec

Hi @utopia

Missed two days of medication - aw - that is a tough one - I agree with your Mum - you have been busy and not thinking about it - your mind has been on "being present" and communicating with your son's girl-friend being over - that has to be tough.

How much does it cost us - this being present and communicating with someone when our thoughts are drawing us elsewhere - I know I try and hide my pain at times and my medication is something I can't miss - I notice if I have - or when it has been a while since I had something - it can become public often but still

Why do we torture ourselves pretending the emotional stuff is not there - I was talking to Life Line yesterday - really nice guy - easy to talk to - I don't feeling at all about my feelings to anyone in my everyday life - yes - I can tell them my son died, where and how - but not about my feelings - so that is a new thing for me - the people in my life come and go - I will be seeing them again and really don't want to mention at so many years later I can still have a bad day - a really bad day - a disastrous day -

Yikes - I will be seeing this person again and I do not want sympathy and I screw up inside when someone says "Poor thing" because I am not and I don't feel sorry for myself - but sorrow yes and I am allow to but also - you stay "present" and communicate for similar reasons I assume - reckon - guess - you have to see this person again and the truth of our emotional life is sensitve and private

Ring any bells

Okay - I saw this different doctor - new GP at the clinic where I go - and she starting fretting about my blood pressure because whenever I have had it taken and it has been recorded I have been in pain - serious pain - that alone can send the BP up - and then talking about my medication with a different doctor was stressful - and I was sweating and stressed out - so yes

Now I have blood pressure tablets and a blood pressure machine - I can stop worrying - my BP was normal last night when I took at after I had been watching TV for a while - and my resting BP first thing was normal - I took my first tablet and after chatting with my domestic helper today it was higher but when I got back from the supermaret - it was normal again

So I don't know but if my BP is high because of pain or stress and I have enough stress right now - it still needs to be watched and treated - but I am totally convinced I am totally stressed out at times and not all the time -

So yeah - I feel okay today - I have had triggers all week but I am a survivor - just getting older and I have no control over the stress in my life but I can meditate and do - so seeing as I have a BP machine I can test my BP before and after meditating and see what works

Dec

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