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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer just your gentle reminder that when we are stuck in survival mode, our brains HAVE to be selfish. Like that's how they're wired - to put whatever our survival-brain has determined to be the best path towards continued existence at the tippy top of priorities, even when that means we end up doing things that are in conflict with our values!!
And then add in the fact that as a recovering people-pleaser, I HAD to very specifically push myself to be more selfish.... I think you're okay hun 😉
Hope you've been resting up your own self!! Poor thing, sleep deprivation is so unfun.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@Jynx I don’t know how to put a trigger warning to this post.
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There were stuff I was going to need eventually like matcha which will be running out. I also bought some chamomile- lavender blend for anxiety. Though I got stuff I didn’t need aswell because I lost willpower to resist, silly me
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer gotchu!
TW: Suicide
Yeah for sure, it's not really ever about dying in my experience, but about changing. When one's circumstances feel helpless to change, one might naturally conclude that death is the only option. And like yeah, there's that ongoing tension where the suicidal person is told they're selfish, but from their perspective they're 'doing everyone a favour'. Which is why lived experience is so vital in MH support!! So you actually get people who understand these nuances!
I'm glad to hear that you managed okay in the end! I knew you would but it's always hard to see someone you care about having such a time! Do you reckon it'd be worth making some notes about what the 'signs' were that you missed for taking PRN sooner?
Ooooh new tea!! Love! Chamomile and lavender sounds LUSH!!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer yeah I think it would help you in building that self-understanding hey! Cos I know it can be stressful as to be struck by a mood out of nowhere. A mood journal might help noticing patterns and help you prepare!
OMG you could open a lil herbal shop hehe. Yeah lavender is sooooo lush!! Wish I had some in my garden! And some rosemary and jasmine, mmmmm 😍
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer Well we know that right there is the ADHD 🤣
Oooh jasmine is like my FAV flower, it's hard to find essential oils that actually capture the scent! Made the mistake of buying jasmine incense once... Yeah burning jasmine? Not so nice 😅
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer I think we would have been friends in school LOL I was the weird kid too!! People made sure to tell me all the time 😒
I am so glad I learned to embrace my inner weirdo!! I hope you get to embrace yours a lil bit when you're here, too 😋
Oooo thanks for the recommendation!! I need more jojoba too so maybe it's time for an oil splurge!! Teehee
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