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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer Hmmmm ice-cream! Or a krispy kreme donut hehe. But I mean it doesn't have to be dessert, a massage sounds pretty lush actually!! I should book massages after my sessions... hahaha
I gotta dash!! All the best tomorrow, hope it goes swimmingly!! 💜
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Ru-beeModerator
Hey @creative_writer just wanted to pop by and say hey. I've been thinking about you today and I really hope your appointment goes/went well!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Ru-beeModerator
Oh I'm so glad that it went okay @creative_writer Totally understandable to not want to dive into everything in the first session, it can be helpful to have a bit of a foundation of trust and understanding first. When do you see them next?
What's on for the rest of the day? I always try to schedule my therapy sessions with an afternoon/evening of soothing activities
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Ru-beeModerator
Yeah I think that its completely understandable to be having all of these thoughts come up after meeting with a new psychologist @creative_writer
Oof sorry to hear you're nursing a migraine too! Yeah maybe a nap would help, what do you reckon?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Ru-beeModerator
I can really relate to those feelings @creative_writer I really struggled with my mum, especially when I was still living at home. She had her own struggles but she didn't seek support for it and often her feelings were so big there wasn't any space for anyone else to have their own. Any time I'd be hurt or upset by something that she said or did suddenly she was even more hurt and upset and it felt like I had to apologise to her.
It can feel suffocating living in an environment like that, and it's completely understandable to need to talk about it. I know that for me talking about it with a psychologist has really helped, I hope that it can be helpful for you too
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JynxModerator
Hiya @creative_writer!!
Oooh have you tried one of those massage guns? I got one of the cheap ones from Kmart, was like $80 or something and OH MY STARS it's so good!! Perfect for neck too, and I use it to give my jaw muscles a bit of attention, cos I clench sooooo much 😅
Glad to hear your appt went well hun!! What was the vibe like, did you feel heard and understood?
I've had similar kinds of thoughts about my own parents... like for a long while there I genuinely thought I was totally messed up and ungrateful for having MHI despite the fact that like, on the surface it all seemed chill. I think as well like, the parts of us that were wounded by our parents are a LOT younger, so it might be why it's much harder to talk about - it's like we're talking from a 'less mature' part of our brains.
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