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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
I don't think it's about being manipulative but rather, that your thoughts take you around the world so it seems you can change here and there.
In the past, for me, when someone asked me a question, in my head, I'd ask a million other questions so I could never answer properly and it was like I was always lying to manipulate people. @creative_writer
I'm not sure if you can relate.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
If something isn't right - change it @creative_writer
That's all I can say.
Whether you change the actual 'thing' or your relationship with the thought.
The ball is in your court.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Change then @creative_writer
Well, if you are paying them, why should they pay attention to their phone?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Yeah, It sounds so hard to sit with these thoughts. I can see they are quite confronting @creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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