I’m bored.. + some random thoughts

@rav3n I’m so glad you’re here tonight since I needed someone to chat to tonight.

oh, my mum just told me on WhatsApp that my aunty wants to add me on Facebook cause she (my mum) wants me to connect with our people through there since I don’t have any in real life friends that I can connect with and stuff. So I brought up about the fact that she wants me to find a boyfriend (like what I told you last time) and thankfully she told me it’s not because of that, it’s just that she just wants me to connect with people in general….:face_with_rolling_eyes::face_with_rolling_eyes::face_with_rolling_eyes:(especially the people of our country…) I told her that I’ll call the police if she tries to force me to “marry” someone and that it’s illegal here in Australia to force someone to marry someone they don’t wanna marry, so there’s that too. This is so that she knows that she can’t make me marry someone. Why does she want me to connect with people and “have friends on Facebook” so badly like seriously???😐😐😐😑😑😑 Btw, this isn't the first time that she's bought up about connecting with people on facebook, shes told me about it on other occasions too. I wish she can leave me the hell alone and stop caring so much about the fact that she wants me to have friends.

Like it doesn’t change the fact that I don’t wish to connect with people of my culture because I myself don’t feel connected to that culture for a lot of reasons.

and that’s understandable about the service name guideline, I’ll remember it next time 🤞

of courseeee, glad i can sit with you @Blackcloud

i hear how frustrating that is!!! that's a lil win that she's not trying to set you up this time yay!! maybe she's starting to SLOWLY accept that the boyfriend topic needs to be gone. interesting that she's connecting you with your aunty, i wonder if this is your mum's way of saying 'i don't want you to feel alone so pls connect with your aunty/family'? like her way of showing she cares? but i do get that it's hard for you to trust your mum after what she done in the past in terms of setting you up. it's tricky!!! and i'm guessing you'd rather connect with someone who's more your age group and shares similar cultural views to you instead.

@rav3n i'm guessing since she told me that my aunty wanted to add me on facebook, it's more like the fact that it'll eventually lead my aunty to i guess introduce me on her profile (?) or maybe post a pic of me and tag my name on there, and then have her friends on facebook pay attention to me and add me on facebook. i dont know, thats my thoughts on that. who knows?

oh, yeah and the family part too. she does kinda want me to connect with my family.

i know that at least the people of our culture, a lot of them tend to have a lot of friends (like hundreds) on their friends list through facebook, including the ones on their friends list that they've never met in real life, which all of that is the people of the same culture - so that way they naturally connect with each other on there that way?

and yes you're totally correct on the last part. i'm afraid that many people of my culture wouldn't have similar views and values as mine so yeah. and sadly i dont have anyone like that in my life that are my age and accept me and have the same views as me 😞

this is my reply to your earlier post about peer support btw:

yeah it is tricky that a lot of places ask for experience! there are ways to get those experiences though - did they mention the lifeline volunteer roles? i have heard they are pretty intense roles, but it's also a way of getting experience - they have the online crisis supporter volunteer role you can apply for, it requires lots of commitment around attending training and stuff at the start. volunteering there for a year or so would probably give you enough experience to apply for more peer support moderator type of jobs.

from my understanding, SANE peer support roles would be similar to what ReachOut mentioned in terms of working with risk because of moderation side of things- unless you're looking to do volunteer roles, i think they're more 'peer support' based. i do agree, the job opportunities are tricky to find but the good part is, there's also lots of new roles that pop up over time so fingers crossed something good finds its way to you!

i haven't done that course - and my friends who come from those other background, a few did a peer work related course while others didn't. the first peer work job i got (which was different to this one) said that they were looking for someone with lived experience, ability to use lived experience to help others and experience moderating and enforcing guidelines. i just used my experience from my customer service role, my experience at school and my experience on using social media (like reddit) in my interview. different companies/peer support roles have different expectations - it might take some trial and error to find the right one!

Hi @MissGremlin I'm so sorry I did not see this response popping up on my email notifications for some reason..so I just saw this now and missed it 😞

Yeah she usually has a thing where I guess she normally gives short responses even after I was to give her long responses, or at times she would just give it a reaction when reading it without responding. Yeah she did mention to me and others last time that she was feeling overworked and tired so that could be one of it too.

Thank you so much, and I'm so sorry again that I just saw this now and not before. ❤️

@Blackcloud no need to apologise at all. I sometimes miss the notifications or go to reply but get distracted and forget.

Hope you are holding up ok after having your wisdom teeth out ❤️.

@MissGremlin yes the recovery is currently going well, thank you for checking ❤️

I guess also getting an additional few hours of rest during the morning through broad daylight even helps with the recovery too 😄 for me at least! I usually struggle to fall asleep during the night, so I guess me being able to spend a few more hours of sleeping during the day helps adding up to my supposed sleep schedule 😛

@Blackcloud yes getting rest will help to recover quickly. It's hard not getting enough sleep at night so being able to nap during the day will help to catch up on that missed sleep.

@MissGremlin its like during the day, I would have to sleep throughout whereas during the night I'm not meant to be sleeping 😄

I dont know, my brain seems to be kind of giving me that... but of course I'm not gonna fall for that kind of routine as I know for a fact on how dangerous staying up at night is, and getting 8-9 hours of sleep throughout the night is essential, but then again I usually end up sleeping within the 6-7 hour range. Sometimes less than that depending on how long and how much my night thoughts on certain things impact my ability to fall asleep. 😕

and then I would manage to start falling asleep from when it gets to the later hours during the night, then wake up like 2/3 or so hours later