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JynxModerator
Hey folks!! This thread serves as a safe space for discussions around C-PTSD and childhood trauma, how it impacts us, and how we can cope and recover.
@Healandlove @Shaz51 help me kick things off? Who else would be keen on joining?
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JATSenior Contributor
@Jynx I wish people under The need for reassurance, not in an unhealthy way! But like you would if a child was learning to stand for the first time, the first day of school, when you fall over and hurt your knee.
Our brains have been through a lot of different traumas and always seem to live to in fight or flight mode because we feel be stuck because our brains didn’t have the chance to develop and learn in a healthy and nurturing environment - it’s excruciating.
We never had the chance to “enjoy” life growing up, in many different ways we were just trying to survive whatever our childhood contained, and now we fight to unpack it and seperate ourselves, from what happened to us and the future ahead that WE control.
it’s a battle but with the right skills it’s definitely one worth fighting 🩷
Thanks for the tag @Shaz51
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avant-gardeSenior Contributor
@Jynx
I wish people realised the practical implications of having a traumatic childhood...
Licence, housing, job, relationships...
My go to coping tool is graded exposure...
Take going into shopping centres
- bulky jacket, big headphones, sunglasses and umbrella, in and out in 20 minutes
- gradually got rid of the personal protection equipment
- gradually increased the time
- now I just have a schedule (mainly to avoid school kids) and my ear hooks
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Unknown userMember
Yes, yes, yes!! @JAT @Jynx
The brains craving for reassurance, for acceptance, for love. The brains adverse reaction to rejection, negativity, fear of some type of punishment.
Childhood and teenage years stolen or destroyed. Gaps in memories. Trust in people destroyed and replaced with fear. Going from being happy children to surviving through years of trauma to somehow expected to become happy, perfectly adjusted, self confident, self assured adults able to face anything. It’s BS!!
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tymeModerator
Great thread @Jynx !
I think for me, I never realised the oppression I was under as a kid. It affected me, but I thought it was 'normal' because I never knew any better.
It wasn't until I was an adult that through therapy, I realised that my childhood wasn't so 'normal' as they say... and yes, it affected me severely as an adult
Good news though, I've been able to work through a lot of it... but not all. There are still parts that have not been touched.
@Former-Member @avant-garde @JAT @Captain24
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Thank you @Jynx , @Former-Member , @avant-garde , @JAT , @Captain24 , @Louie333 , @tyme
A great thread
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
I wish people understood that trauma just doesn't happen as a kid. It's not like your 18 now, nothing bad will happen anymore.
DV often (not always) happens to those with child trauma. We never learnt better. I never learnt that what he was doing was abuse, I thought it was normal to be treated that way.
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Unknown userMember
So true @The-red-centaur
DV, workplace bullying, verbal abuse by others, taken advantage of by narcissistic and / or gaslighting.
it’s as if trauma that we have gone through somehow leaves us unable to detect these things or stop them happening.
for me, local doctor at the time called it as workplace bullying. Few mths after getting away from that was befriended by 2 people, 1 a narcissist and The other gaslighter. Took different periods of time for me to realise this.
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
@Former-Member i relate.
I saw no red flag from those who saw all the flags I had trauma and was an easy target.
I blamed myself for it all.
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hotmessSenior Contributor
gaps in memories .. no real timeline .. I don’t think I’ve ever really been able to name dates that things happened and still can’t - it’s like I have a calaender dysfunction.. time and me are not friends.
but I’m still seeking diagnosis - this seems hard quite a few of the Pyske I’ve talked to won’t diagnose it’s like it’s out of fashion.. and while that’s a thing some tools and an understanding of the mechanics of my brain would be helpful.
also cronic trust issues, ocd about locking stuff (never safe ) and I am also a flame that attracts narcissists in droves.
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JATSenior Contributor
That hits hard. In some stupid way chaos in relationships are normal to our brains, cause that what we are used too.
when things go wrong that’s when the anxiety starts because your just waiting for it all to go bad.. or you make it go bad because normal feels so uneasy.
it’s a Viscus circle, when all we really want is to be reassured loved and safe 🩷
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