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Putting yourself out there

BS9New Contributor

Putting yourself out there

Hi, I am an incredibly shy person and have never taken steps to tell someone how much I care about them and hope for a relationship. Well that changed two weeks ago when I told the guy that I have been hanging out with now for over year that I cared about him a lot.... He politely said thank you and that he loves spending time with me but he's decided to not be in a relationship with anyone. Now, the thing is for this past year we have nearly loved in each other's pockets. We have spent so much time together that people around us have questioned whether or not we were together. I even thought he had feelings....but now I just feel like I was crazy. Some of you may say that I just need to walk away and you are probably right but I am grieving so much right now and I'm sure my friends are sick of me talking about it. I just wanted someone who thought like me, enjoyed the same things as me etc just saw me and willing to give it a go. Thanks for reading my rant. It's a bit hard right now.

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tymeModerator

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Nice @Spirit_Healer ! Thanks for sharing and taking us for a tour 🙂

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MJG017Senior Contributor

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Looking great @Spirit_Healer! It must feel great to have your own place and just make it look and feel like your own space... your home.

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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor

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Did you draw those pictures ?

I feel a little jealous of your decor ! My place is messy !!

Cool

 

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HealandloveSenior Contributor

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@Spirit_Healer I'm so happy for you! There's something so healing and rewarding about decorating and having things just the way you like them!

You've done a great job! Thank you for sharing with us. Did you draw that pretty lady dancing? Beautifully done!

And wonderful that you are continuing your dancing 💃 ❤️ 😊 🫂

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Spirit_HealerSenior Contributor

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Yes, @Healandlove, that's a bigger version of the same dancing emoji you put in your last message!

I just realised that I have been doing salsa and bachata dancing for almost 14 years!

@tyme

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rav3nSenior Contributor

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love how the decor's coming along!! hope it's feeling more 'homey' now @Spirit_Healer and 14 years of dancing!? wowww that's amazing!! has it always been salsa and bachata, or were there other dance styles you've done too?

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Spirit_HealerSenior Contributor

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Haha, @rav3n , you got me started!

First, there was callisthenics when I was in primary school.

Then I was getting too much pain from the flexibility stretches, so I swapped it for Taekwondo in secondary school.

At uni, I was part of a student society that taught each other/ invited guests as instructors to teach one style every two to three weeks.

So, I dabbled in:

  • Salsa
  • Bachata
  • Meringue
  • Lindy-hop
  • West Coast Swng
  • Charleston, and
  • Zouk

They all have their own music genres, it's really enjoyable both to listen to the music and to dance, of course!

@PeppyPatti @MJG017 @tyme @Oaktree @Shaz51 @Ru-bee @Healandlove @rav3n @Jynx

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JynxModerator

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Oooh you can do LINDY-HOP @Spirit_Healer ?? With all the swinging about and leaping around? I admittedly have only ever seen a couple videos of the style but it's always SO IMPRESSIVE!! 😍

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rav3nSenior Contributor

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this is so impressive!! i haven't heard of some of these dance styles but now i will be googling them, thanks for sharing!! @Spirit_Healer i've recently been interested in getting into callisthenic actually, but i'm not a very flexible person so i'm slowly starting at a VERY beginner level. it's so lovely to see how much passion you have for dance ✨

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HealandloveSenior Contributor

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Wow @Spirit_Healer ! That's so awesome you know all those dance styles.

Dancing is such wonderful exercise 😍.

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