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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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Yeah ..... in part that is how it works ..... 💕

@Zoe7

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so here is where I get stuck @Faith-and-Hope I know I need to talk but find it hard (nearly impossible) to find the words. I can't explain how I am feeling or what the pain is like. I definitely can't go into any details about what is going onfor me and I certainly don't want to trigger or worry anyone -so that pretty much leaves me where I am now - in a hopeless position where I cannot see a way out!

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As much as you can, just keep travelling along with us here @Zoe7 .......

In my experience, pain "leaks out" progressively in tiny increments amongst the everyday activities and interactions ..... I know that is what happened with my grief process over my mum, and grieving emotional injuries in my life with my dragon in-laws ......

Do you know our lymph system doesn't have a "pump" like our blood and respiratory systems (the heart) ..... ? Lymph fluid moves around our bodies and empties out as a result of drinking water and our physical movements .......

It's like that with pain ...... there is an element of it that moves and resolves as a result of staying connected and interacting, no matter how small that may be. It's a trickle of healing regardless.

💚💐💕

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It is when I am feeling the most pain that I don't want to stay connected - to anyone @Faith-and-Hope I can't bare it myself and don't want anyone else to know even a small amount of what I am feeling.

....and keeping it all inside of me is definitely making it harder and harder to keep going myself. I know none of this is my fault but I still don't feel like there is any option but too carry it al myself.

I honestly would not wish this on my worst enemy - it isn't fair and it isn't right - but it is what is is - and what it is is so so hard to live with!

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I hear you @Zoe7 ..... but please just disconnect a little, then reconnect when you feel you can ..... it's not a smooth path, but just stay on it ..... or near it when you can't be on it ....

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Thanks for 'listening' Hon. I hope you hear from your friend really soon @Faith-and-Hope and things start turning around for the better for you too.

I need to go now - I don't want to but I am out of words and completely exhausted.

Always know how much I care for you and love you - with all of my heart. You are so very, very special to me and your friendship and support has meant the world to me.

Stay strong yourself and never change - you are one in a million and deserve only the very best in life.

Zoe

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Take care @Zoe7 ..... I know you are spent in this moment .... but you are so precious to me too, and I look forward to seeing you here again soon, somewhat recharged ..... and sharing your gorgeous humour with us.

💚💕

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Hi @Zoe7 -

I understand what you mean about not wanting to share your pain - actually - we can't - we have to carry it ourselves but it is possible to let some of it trickle away as @Faith-and-Hope says

One thing I really feel uncomfortable with is when people say "Poor thing" to me - to start off with I am not a 'thing" but more than that is I don't feel sorry for myself

I think many people know that emotional pain is far worse than physical pain - if I have a bad time with my memories - which still happens though not as often - my physical pain disappears -

I hear you

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Morning @Zoe7 ..... 💚💕

I ha e heard back from my friend that she is okay .....

Thinking of you .....

🤗😘

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Such a beautiful image @Faith-and-Hope - thankyou - just what I needed today

That is wonderful news about your friend I am sure that has eased your mind alot today. Hope you are doing ok also.

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