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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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@utopia at the beach with Toby. It's such a beautiful day and I still feel like sh*t. Will stay a bit longer because he is enjoying it so much but have hidden myself away off the main beach in case I can"t hold back the tears. Too many people - too much in my head 😔

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Walking with you @Zoe7 .... ❤️💕

Tune in to your surroundings with your senses to help keep you grounded ....

Smell the salt in the air .... take in deep breaths ....

Close your eyes and hear the scund of the waves ....

Pick up a shell and feel it's contours ....

Touch the water then taste the saltiness of a drop from your fingers ....

See .... really notice the colour of the water today .... how would you describe it ?

What is the true colour of the sand .... and it's shadows .... are they pale purple ?

Dustract, distract, distract .... get yourself out of your head and into the moment where you are ....

💗💕🐚

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@Zoe7. It's good that you have managed to get to the beach - even when feeling shite. And I bet Toby is grateful.<br>I have my best friends 5 year old with me for a few hours. So we put her in the car seat and squeezed the 3 dogs in also &amp; went down to the parkland. <br>My Labrador loves swimming in the creek. Even my other two that don't enjoy the water much - had a few dips. Already hot here.<br>I like days where I can get out in nature - but also be by myself. Quiet time.<br>Was so many magpies at the park. <br>How can you clear your head when you get back home?<br>A project. Something simple. Hand sewing a cushion cover for Toby? Any clothes need mending? I find a monotonous job like hand sewing - 5 minutes in &amp; I no longer focus on what's in my head. Too busy trying not to pin myself with the needle. I'm a terrible sewer.

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@utopia @Faith-and-Hope

I had to come home - too much. All I could seem to think about was walking out into the water and keep going. Not an ideal thought when at the beach! Tried to focus just on the beauty around me but started the tears so just left. I am really not in a good place. I don't want to talk to anyone - don't even think I could at the moment. I can't seem to get any energy to do anything else - took so much to get to the beach and then to make it back home. I just feel like I want to fade away and disappear and to never have existed at all. I am so over living like this. I don't even think I want to move on anymore - it's just too hard. I feel whatever I do will hurt either me or others so I'm stuck between my pain and fears without no way out. Totally exhausted by my life, my pain, my memories, my loneliness and my feelings.

So lost, so unhappy, so overwhelmed, so not coping.

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Can you hug your Toby to you just now, and rest .... ?

Don't think about anything .... just his warmth and his breathing .....

❤️💕

@Zoe7

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@Zoe7. Remember to contact your gp or psychologist. They are there to help you and are more than willing to do it. Just say what you said here. That you have no energy. You are struggling and that you want it to stop. And tell them about your attemp last week. They need to know - so they can help you. There is nothing to be ashamed of. You just need mire help at the moment. We all do some days.
So glad you took yourself back home - when your thoughts at the beach became so hard. That is practicing self love. Doing what you need to to keep yourself safe.
What can you do to distract yourself at home - now? What can you think of? What has helped in the past?

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How are you going @Zoe7 ?

🤗💐

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@Faith-and-Hope @utopia

I'm really not ok but no need to be concerned. I just need to disappear for a little while and not think or feel.

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Hey @Zoe7,

I find online jigsaw puzzles are great for not thinking or feeling. It takes a bit of concentration but not too much which stops other thoughts and there is not much emotion involved. Other thing (and don't laugh) it getting detergent and blowing bubbles. I always get caught up in the doing part of this and observing it all. Stay safe, thinking of you 💜🤗😘

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Keep yourself safe @Zoe7 ...

Call your doctor and / or psych if you need to ....

Hugs 🌷💕

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