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Does anyone here believe they are destined to not being in a relationship? I feel this way a lot as I feel like I’m not a desirable person.
I’ve worked hard to be content and satisfied in life but I feel like that’s just gaslighting myself to think that’s what I need to be accepted.
I feel so sad
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Unknown userMember
Hi @tyme
Pretty miserable and sad, all I do is work and thats it. I have no life and nothing
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JynxModerator
@Former-Member hey man, sorry to hear that you're feeling so rough today!
I'm curious... if you did 'have a life' - what would that look like for you? Like I know being in a loving relationship would be a big part of it but like... outside of that, what would you change?
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Unknown userMember
@Jynx I feel rough everyday unfortunately.
Obviously the relationship but I also would like a good social life with a few friends and just have other things to do. All I do is work and nothing else. It is soul destroying and this won't last forever.
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tymeModerator
Do you connect with people at work @Former-Member ?
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JynxModerator
What 'other things' would you like to be doing @Former-Member ?
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Unknown userMember
@tyme @Jynx
I do connect with some of the people at work and we do try to make time for things outside of work. It is just hard with the nature of our job.
Maybe one social outing a week coupled with moving out of home and just having time and energy to do more hobbies. I am not asking for much, it just seems like it is all out of reach for someone like me. Life is behind a paywall and I have no money.
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tymeModerator
I'm confuzzled. Are you saying you've moved out of home and finances are tight, hence affecting how much you go out? @Former-Member
My apologies in that I'm a bit confused.
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
I haven't moved out yet because I cant afford it, amongst everything else.
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tymeModerator
Hey @Former-Member ,
What'd you get up to today? My guess... work?
So, you're still living with your parents/family?
I hear this can add another layer of challenge.
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
Yep pretty much, taught all day today and now I am lying in bed. I cant even think at the moment, I feel so fried.
How do people actually have lives and friends and a relationship? it blows my mind.
Life is incredibly unsatisfying right now and yes I do live with mum and dad. I love them but it is getting annoying, I need my own space but I cannot afford it
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