Depression anxiety

Hi @Lula I can totally relate to everything you just wrote. Even the reaching out to people and not hearing back. Sometimes there's a good reason, but sometimes you just never hear back, or you do only to get fobbed off again. It's so hard because it's hard not to take it personally. Which then makes it harder to try again. That was my problem for decades.

Keep asking on the FB page. Keep posting about yourself. Nothing to personal of course, just keep inviting someone to meet up for a chat. There may be lonely people reading, but just don't feel comfortable or mentally up to replying to you right now. If they keep reading you posts over time, it may give them the confidence or motivation to contact you. I don't think it says anything about you at all. So many people just seem wrapped up in their own little worlds these days. So it takes time to find someone who is willing to reach out and just meet a stranger for a chat. Even a couple of years ago, I would have never replied myself. I just would have been too scared to. To be fair, I probably still wouldn't if it was someone I didn't know. I just wouldn't feel confident enough to reply. So try not to take it personally (easier said than done I know) and don't let it stop you from continuing to try. Just finding one person to spend some time with will make a massive difference.

If you're not eating enough then that would probably explain the lack of energy. n top of the low mood, it just makes it even harder. So maybe you could try to go to a local cafe and treat yourself to something nice a few times a week. You may even meet someone there to have a bit of a chat with. Just a thought.

That loneliness forum I was on, I joined it about 14 years ago, and was on for about 3 years. I was on so much, the owner made me an admin. Part of that job was to approve new members. There were a lot of suspicious people trying to join. Some of them were obvious scammers, but some always slipped through. So another part ofthe job was to keep an eye on things and if there were any suspicious posts then they would be removed and the account banned. It was the same if people were breaking any of the rules. We were very vigilant about that in order to keep the forum safe, because people would come and and share their vulnerability with people which is hard for most of us, so it was important to keep it safe by removing anyone that made it feel less safe. This was a international forum with people from all over the world so it took a bit of time but such important work. The admins/moderators here would be doing very similar hard work keeping this forum safe for the members here. They would so a lot of work behind the scenes, and in front, to monitor the forum and keep it as safe as possible.

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@Lula wrote:

I’ll look forward to maybe seeing the newspaper article about you minus any ID 😍. Thank you in anticipation M

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@LulaIt was published in todays paper!!

I don't think this breaks any rules... i've edited stuff out.

I edited the photo to hide my identity... I don't really look like that 🤣

@MJG017

That was a quick reply M. LOL And mine is quick and brief too.

I don’t want to go into the situation around where I live here M, but I’ve done what I can before, it didn’t work, and I let it go a while back. I need to make efforts further away from home.

I went looking for a loneliness forum, and probably found the one you were talking about - I didn’t know at first that people were from all over the world - but as soon as I joined I realised it was not right for me and asked to close my account down. LOL

Finally I’m going now to get something to eat

Bye M

@MJG017

OMG M - I just posted my very short post to you and then this came up.

You’ve got so much to cope with. This is not at all what I had imagine the newspaper article would be about, and I am lost for words, except to say I am SO sorry. I am sending you virtual hugs 🤗 and love ❤️. You will be in my thoughts even more now.

@MJG017

Please hide the reporters name in your newspaper article. xx

@MJG017 responds when they are able 🙂

@Lula , If you tag them, they will get a notification.

Yes, 2 cupcakes! The cupcakes were yum, but I didn't like the frosting, so I took it off.

Friands!!! I haven't had them in years! I used to make them when I was much younger. I don't anymore. I have even forgotten about them until you mentioned it.

I'm hearing you about depression. I spent years under the covers because of depression. It was pleasant. I feel I'm making up for it now and hence I just go go go now.

Hope you stay warm. It was hailing on my side today...

@tyme Yes I do know that tyme. I just couldn’t help wondering, that’s all. xx

@LulaThe lonely forum I used was called Web of Loneliness. I actually looked for it about a year ago, but its long gone. I remember looking a few years ago, just to see if it was still around but it had moved to a Facebook group. That too is gone now. I did try some of those loneliness facebook groups and didn't really find them very good either. The original forum was a lot like this one.

September is Prostate Awareness month, which is why i'm doing that fundraiser and why there's a bit of media interest at the moment. They just wanted someone to share their story and I volunteered. I'm also be in the background of the weather forecast here and Monday and Wednesday. Much less exciting, just in a group of people in the background to promote the Long Run fundraiser this month.

Thank you for the kind words and the hugs. It is what it is with my health, but it has made me try to improve myself and be more sociable and given me a strong desire to help other people through their own tough times. So i'm trying to make as much good come from it as I can.

I've edited the photo as well to remove those names.

@tymeI don't think I've ever had a friand. Maybe I should fix this 😁

@MJG017 I can see from the newspaper article, that you’re better looking than my ex and that candid smile tells me that you’re more intelligent 😇

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@Glisten wrote:

I can see from the newspaper article, that you’re better looking than my ex and that candid smile tells me that you’re more intelligent 😇

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It must be that wrinkle-free youthful face 😁 I did have to do a bit of modeling for the photographer... that photo must have been the one where she said "try to look slightly intelligent". 😆