Strategies for anger

Yes you're not wrong @M3ridian

You've captured it in one paragraph for me.

And I can add that it's probably a greif generator as well.

I have an email from SANE to read. Have to wait for the library to open.

Hi @M3ridian

Thanks for raising this topic. Anger is insidious. It can get things done, but it can point us in the wrong direction at times, especially if it keeps us trapped in the past. What I mean by getting things done, is that it can fuel us to better ourselves, to push forwards, to adapt. But for who, and why? So it can be a double-edged sword.

When it dissipates, is it just disappointment and grief-tears, like @Stout mentioned, that things could, 'should' have been different? I don't know..

I like to garden. To watch things grow, to have a moment away from 'should'. To admire the perfect imperfection of nature.

i think it can be useful if you acknowledge that it isn't a character flaw, if that is a concern. maybe look into the root cause of the anger. it's often frustration.

i believe that expressing to the other person that it's not them that you're angry with, takes a bit of pressure off, and gives you an opportunity to regain control. if you know that something is going to make you angry before you even start, just say so, if you're likely to swear, just say that you're likely to swear.

hey @M3ridian,

the way i was brought up, my parents were allowed to express anger in unhealthy ways simply because they were the adults and i was not allowed to express it the same way + wasn't taught a healthy way to release it. i felt so much shame and embarrassment towards myself whenever i felt rage because i didn't know how to handle it appropriately until my friend suggesting gym & boxing.

i've tried journaling, it's helpful in steading my mind when i'm overwhelmed with angry thoughts but my body still stores that anger afterwards - so i've started going gym or even just blasting my favourite songs in my headphones and dancing out the tense feelings.

love that you've created this thread @M3ridian, anger is an emotion i've always struggled to regulate in healthy ways and i look forward to learning from everyone here 😊

@M3ridian awesome idea great initiative 👏🏼

I get more annoyed at self entitled people’s uncommon sense.

G

Hi I don't have Strategies for anger infact I was hoping I could share my story about anger.

I hope my story is acceptable because I'm angry it won't be.

It's harmless to seek help but I'm angry people don't help people.

So sorry if my post is anger I am not angry with this forum.

I suffer from paranoid Schizophrenia and my thoughts are very negative as you can see. This makes me angry because i am not comfortable with who i am because of this mental illness. I expect people are going to be scared or reject me. I could call myself the human reject mall..haha that was kind of funny! Story of my life. Please and no offence everyone

Just trying to join in the conversation. I don't know how to help

hey @BlueBlu welcome!

your feelings are valid, anger included. it can hard to adjust to diagnoses and accept parts of ourselves that we're not comfortable with, and it's definitely okay to feel angry about it. the good news is that we can learn to let go of that anger and find healthy ways to manage/release/express those feelings.

thank you for sharing BlueBlu, its nice to know we're not alone in our experiences with anger 💗

@unreal I really like what you posted.

Society puts anger and violence into the same category.

I’m tired of being an easy target.

G

I hate dealing with this settlement.
I just hate everything about my ex-narc

https://youtu.be/byEGjLU2egA?si=qOuX_XxRxa8umVx0

Hi fellow sufferers of anger.
After being lost to anger responses for…. Well forever I’m a confessed rage-aholic Who has come across Gabor Mate’s explanation for the anger response happening when a boundary is crossed. the anger response is to say a strong No.

when that response is suppressed and not permitted it will find its way to the surface, may be a sign of unresolved, embodied trauma being triggered.
May not be great news to have to be the one to do more.

I ended up shutting myself down trying to break the Anger spirals of Blame, Hate, and the damage it does, turned it inwards to a self attack that becomes misdirected at those around me. Tried to self medicate it away, not helpful. there are ways to breathe through it and realise what the emotion is saying no! to, finding a name for the trigger and expressing that in a clear way does help. Now I mostly end up in tears about the pain it comes from and how it has affected those close to me. Anger and resentment truely is a poison you drink expecting it to harm someone else.
still hopeful I can do better investing time and effort to change.