Please tell me what you are good at.

sure you are good at lots of things @ENKELI

these are the bits of Life that are the Only ones the matter. The Hard Ones.

a lot of people do not see them . good for them.

bit people can learn and get stronger.

My father was in really bad part of WW2 for years on losing side

his family lost everything and became refugees.

my mothers father died age 3 so she and siblings were brought up on charity and her mothers wits in 1930s ..

anything I have faced was sort of self-created (and def never life threatening or was on the streets for more than a day or so). And nothing in comparison to what they went through

Thank you for this thread @StanD . It really makes us stop and think!

@TAB I understand that I have been very lucky, never been homeless, never had any major traumatic incident, but my depressed, bipolar brain likes to tell me that I am worth nothing, no wonder I can't keep a job and no wonder I have no friends.

I get up and feel like there is no point getting out of bed because I don't have a job to go to.

Sometimes we need a boot in the rear to get motivated, sometimes we need to be able to say how we feel without feeling guilty.

I feel guilty that I am depressed and really don't have serious problems like other people.

well I could have said the first sentence @ENKELI brother told me all my fault cant keep a job when I started making noises about others letting me have 10% of their share of Will so I could get a place bit closer to city . yeah, my fault.

anyway its reality and friends not lining up, just leaving over the years lol.

all to do with how you deal with things, not feeling guilty cos not worse off. just accept that things could be a lot worse and when you are able get up and keep moving. thats all

Hello @ENKELI & everyone,

You are (your reply) is the exact reason I started this thread.

It is ok to respond, ' nothing.'

I will say, you are good at expressing how you feel about yourself.

Everything you wrote, I can relate 100%. The feelings of being a burden to others.

I didn't choose to be depressed. I don't want to bring other people down. (Symptom of depression ironic!)

There is a big peice if me that also says, 'nothing.'

Scientifically, I am aware that when we make a mistake, the brain makes us feel embarrassed, bad etc. The reason is that, - the brain is attempting to place a "red marker" WRONG. I think that this is brains way of avoiding making same mistake again.

I wanted to ask other people what they are good at, because it helps to reinforce, in my mind, that I Am good at things.

I have not left my unit for weeks. I stay on couch in Oodie. I only go out if I absolutely have to, i.e get meds or food for animals.

I wrote that I am good at maintain life skills. - I never brush my teeth before bed anymore, the unit is a mess, I don't look after my skin, like I used to.

But, ....... I am not living in unsafe, unsanitary conditions. All the cleaning, & jumbled household maintenance has been done by ME.

I am not anywhere near, where I think, a respectable, functional human needs to be. I am so very embarrassed to have psw's into my home, & see the way I live.

Compared to who I think I can be, & rest of society - I am not coping. I am not even in society.

Compared to me - what I have been thru - the times I feel so depressed, or suicidal - & I have taken action by reaching out to crisis lines, & taking my meds everyday - I am a SUPERHERO.

You once told me that, your name translates to angel.

That says everything to me.

You are good at lots!!!!

I know the feeling of wanting to say 'nothing'. And, earnestly believing this as a truth.

I am honoured that you are brave enough to express this is how you feel.

I also know, my moods fluctuate.

And, I really do feel like I am a 'waste of space'. There is no pulling me out. I have to lay down, & let the feelings wash over me. Or, I endure body sensations of severe trauma. Every single day.

Who wants to be around that?

Thankyou for saying, 'nothing' - I think you actually articulated how so many of us, REALLY feel.

xxxx

P.S if you want to change your mind that is amazing!!! If you want stay at nothing, because you believe this is the truth, that is OKAY 👍🏻

It means the world to me that you responded. Thankyou

S...D

@StanD you made my day. Thank you so much!

I'm sitting in my car outside the dentist after having a tooth removed and have a second appointment in about 40 mins to have a 2nd tooth removed.

So, I am good at being patient. Sometimes.

I am good at acknowledging other people's value, like yours.

I too have only left my house to go to work and the doctor.

Now that I don't have a job I will probably find myself in the same situation- swap the couch for bed and you and I could be book ends.

But that's okay. Are you safe? The housework will still be there tomorrow

Do you have food? If not reach out.

I need to get another job so that I can keep my house. I wouldn't be able to afford rent and I have 12 months left on the mortgage.

But that's okay. I have superannuation that I can access.

I tell myself these things but still sit and cry and panic.

So I'm good at getting over anxious.

Thank you for this thread, and I thank Sane for you.

If not for you, @Glisten @TAB @tyme @Bill16 @PeppyPatti @ArraDreaming @Jynx @Birdofparadise8

I would be a little more sad

💜

Cat might come back @TAB ... When you least... bla bla

Cat is very intelligent. Perhaps, has a few 'owners'. This is way if the cat.

Mine are opposite because I have babied them so much. .....and mostly, I am entirely ignored!

Have you thought about adopting? So many cats waiting for new home, best friend. Adopting from shelter, you will never find a more loyal friend. Usually they are not quite as confident, & scare easily.

Cats are actually incredibly grateful - they have good poker face.

I think maybe very good for spirit - other dimensions, they can see. They are protective.

I think in Vic, RSPCA, you can adopt seniors & they don't charge you. They also pay 50% if any medical bills in future.

I always thought it is nice to adopt a senior. A special gift to give a loving, warm home for older years🐈‍⬛

@ENKELI I cannot find words to let you know, .....

We can definately be bookends.

You are really good at so many things.

I am asking universe to find you a new job. A job that you will enjoy & will be accepting of all r pieces of you.

I have had teeth pulled - 3. One didn't even need to be pulled- the dentist was lazy. Apparently this is common. Man, I was so freaking devastated. I know, because, I asked to keep the tooth - they was zero decay at the root.

Life can be truly awful.

You have made it to the dentist!!! Well done. One of life's hardest tasks, imo.

I think you have made my year!

Thankyou for giving me strength.

I loved all of your 'good' answers.

Wow.

You are special person.

I knew it💜

Thankyou @tyme your response means lots to me, as I hope you already know.

I think you summised it :ok_hand:

I will love to read your answers if you feel comfortable sharing.

I am truly amazed by all PSWs. There are good & not so good, same as everything in life. Or, not all are suitable, right fit.

I actually have PSW at 2pm today.

I have only met her once before. I think I like her.

Gosh - new people is like the HARDEST ever.

I can feel the energies integrating & working to achieve equilibrium.

The saying is , ' be myself - that's all I have to do.' Except, I don't know if that is accurate when interacting with new, different. I think we have to allow space & be ourselves at same time.

Who even is myself? Different people manifest new me.

Please share your good things.

The world needs people like you. We all need care x

vic ahead in so many areas @StanD