Progress..

Morning @Mustang67

Feeling responsible for other peoples actions is probably one that we have all experienced and the impact that it has on our mental health is enormous. So glad that you have come to terms with what has happened and know that ultimately we are only responsible for our own actions.

I know the feeling regarding the buzz that you get from workshops when something finally clicks and then the lows afterwards. What I try to do is reenact what I have learned in my own reality and see what effect it has. Its nearly like a game and each time I would put myself into more and more situations that would ordinarily stress me. I guess we all need to work on ourselves the whole time and we never stop learning.

Hope this finds you well..........Asgard

Hiye @Alice10

Me thinks that you have ESP as I have literally been dancing around my kitchen to the remix of Country Roads, now that is spooky. Have attached the link so you can enjoy it to

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmMtCGs5wAc

Hope you have a lovely day and enjoy the dance.......Asgard

Good evening @Asgard

Thank you for your response.

I have decided to put some of the handouts from my current workshop, on a pinup board, so I can be reminded of small changes that I can make. And this way I hopefully won't go backwards.

I really want to keep that glimmer of hope alive.

Good for you @Mustang67

We all need that little 'ompf' to get ourselves going everyday, I know that when I get an email telling me that someone has supported what I have said, it gives me that little kich that I need everyday. So good for you in wanting to create the best possible version of you. Me I see educating myself as smoothing out all the dings I have done to myself in the 56 years i have been around, and let me tell you that I have created some ding whoopers in my time....lol

Anyways hope this finds you well......................Asgard

Thank you for your reply @Asgard. I appreciate it.

I have my workshop this morning, but my back has been going into spasams when I walk, so unfortunately I won't be able to make it 😔. And that really sucks as they will be talking about boundaries. And as a people pleaser, boundaries were basically non existent.

Hi @Mustang67

Not good regarding the back, mine used to be the same, then a chiro friend of mine cracked the hell out of it and luckily I have been grand since. Being a people pleaser, I know that very well, I would put myself out badly just to accommodate other people. I have learned how to say "No" it is so empowering, it really is, it was soo hard to actually say it the first time, my friends were shocked as I was the one who would always offer to do things. Well now I say No and in a way it tells me that I respect my own time as much as I used to respect others. If that makes sense..............Asgard

Hey @Alice10 , I can relate...

Only yesterday, I contacted someone and I put my foot down to say I wasn't going to do something because I was just plain tired tired.

I never usually let people know I'm exhausted, but yesterday I did, and I'm glad because, like you mentioned, self-awareness is so important so that you can then do something about it.

Please look after yourself - there is only one of you.

Hugs.

Hi @tyme thanks. Hugs to you too. Things are difficult.. The person I'm with isn't drinking ATM, but I've seen some equally concerning behaviours without the alcohol. I'm sick as well, it's been about eight days of a very bad flu..

Not much more to say, just trying to keep afloat. Alice10.

PS. My situation feels like the never ending story, often I feel guilty for posting because I'm still with him..

@Asgard has been very supportive.

Hugs to you too @Asgard

Hi @Alice10

How are you today and I would imagine that there are good days and not so good days. Just wondering do you reckon that the behaviours you have noticed are the result of them not drinking or were they always there. Just concerned for your safety @Alice10 and well being.

I hope that you continue to post because that is the only way that we know that you are ok. As I have said before we are always there for you, so no matter what happens we are your friends and will always want the best for you.

Take care of yourself, your friend as always....................Asgard