StarshineSenior Contributor
Coping with lonlieness
Hi just wondering if anyone else feels lonely
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Coping with lonlieness
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Re: Coping with lonlieness
Thank you @Decadian xx'
Hello @Starshine, @fleurdelice, @Former-Member, @utopia , @mel84xx
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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I think you need to push yourself to get out and meet people. Not always easy - I know. But if you try and join a group - sporting - volunteer - book or craft group - yoga or meditation - kids or third age groups.
Visiting the local library or community house. They often run classes or get togethers. Lots are free. The local aged care center, kindergarten or schools would love some volunteers. You could help with reading time at school. Chat and games. Etc. Quite often these activities are one on one - so easier for those who may find groups hard.
If you like to walk - maybe join a walking group - or walk a neighbours dog - if they find it hard.
smile and say hello to strangers. When walking past someones house - comment on how beautiful their garden is. Compliment someone on their hair or dress. Ask where they bought it.
Sometimes a simple statement can lead to a conversation. Sometimes conversations can lead to a cup of tea. Etc
Visiting the local library or community house. They often run classes or get togethers. Lots are free. The local aged care center, kindergarten or schools would love some volunteers. You could help with reading time at school. Chat and games. Etc. Quite often these activities are one on one - so easier for those who may find groups hard.
If you like to walk - maybe join a walking group - or walk a neighbours dog - if they find it hard.
smile and say hello to strangers. When walking past someones house - comment on how beautiful their garden is. Compliment someone on their hair or dress. Ask where they bought it.
Sometimes a simple statement can lead to a conversation. Sometimes conversations can lead to a cup of tea. Etc
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Good ideas @utopia
I like to take a walk to the shops in fair weather - people are always sitting outside the coffee shop with their dogs and of course I know what they are waiting for - so I provide it - I go up to them and chat about their dogs for a few minutes - that is always a winner
But no way will my cat go for a walk to the coffee shop with me - but one thing we can learn is to be comfortable with our own company - it takes a long time to get here though
That word "should" - I think rather the word to apply to your work assignment is "ought" because ought implies "can" - personally "should" annoys me because I get the feeling that I "should" be doing what someone else wants me to do - or something I can't do right now - for whatever reason
I hope this makes sense
About being alone after leaving the ex behind - that can be hard - it was easier for me when I got my ex husband out of my life after my dd had left home - the first time I left she was 7 and whined to go back to her father - and whined and whined and whined until I went back - and I was not prepared then for a life alone -
But once we make a decision to leave - then we need to have plans or it is so much harder
I have been there and not sorry I went back - it's a very complicated story - for my sake it would have been better to have stayed away - but for my daughter - it was better to go back
That is so complicated - but one thing - I had a Yale Lock put on my bedroom door and told my ex it was over - I only came back because I needed him to help me with the kids - after all - they were his children too
I care and I hear you
Dec
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Decadian. Ought is a much better word thansshould. And yes it applies to my desire to get back into my research.
Any compliment - whether about someone's pet or garden is always good. But dogs and kids are a great way to meet people.
Any compliment - whether about someone's pet or garden is always good. But dogs and kids are a great way to meet people.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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hello @Starshine how are you today my friend
have been thinking of you today @Starshine
hello @utopia, @Decadian. @Former-Member
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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Hello @Shaz51. I hope your mum is doing better.
Hi @Starshine.
How have your Saturdays gone?
I'm just about to brave the wild outdoors and water the plants I put in last week.
The mosquitos are ferocious this year. Wish me luck.
Hi @Starshine.
How have your Saturdays gone?
I'm just about to brave the wild outdoors and water the plants I put in last week.
The mosquitos are ferocious this year. Wish me luck.
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StarshineSenior Contributor
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Hi @Shaz51 and @utopia, I've been ok watching game of thrones and isolating again, I start volunteering on Tuesday. @utopia good luck with the mozzies I know what you mean, lots of aeroguard. @Shaz51 thanks for thinking of me I've been thinking of you too. How has the weather been where you are?
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Starshine. I can't use mosquito repellents - as I have allergies to perfumes and chemicals. So I splash vinegar all over my arms and legs. Unfortunately, when I water the garden - I get wet and it washes off.
Got plenty of bites last night.
I've heard 'Game of Thrones' is really good - but I haven't watched it.
Volunteering. That sounds interesting
And will get you out a bit more -especially when you feel like isolating yourself.
Where will you be volunteering and what will you be doing?
Got plenty of bites last night.
I've heard 'Game of Thrones' is really good - but I haven't watched it.
Volunteering. That sounds interesting
And will get you out a bit more -especially when you feel like isolating yourself.
Where will you be volunteering and what will you be doing?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hello @Starshine, @utopia, @Decadian, @Former-Member xx
very hot up here @Starshine, whenyou see the weather map, it is suppose to be raining here, well it`s not
but it fells like we might get a storm this afternoon
Volunteering. That sounds interesting, where will you doing volunteering
we have a cootharinga store in my town
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Hi @Starshine - Good to hear from you again and to read that you decided to go ahead with the volunteering. Wishing you the very best with it. I am looking forward to hearing all about it after Tuesday. Will be thinking of you 😊
