StarshineSenior Contributor
Coping with lonlieness
Hi just wondering if anyone else feels lonely
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Coping with lonlieness
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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;Oh @Shaz51
That is really rough for everyone
Let' s pray your mother has a reasonable night and things look better in the morning
What a shock - this must be terribly hard for you
Dec
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @utopia
Yes - I am feeling better atm - I had a sort of hard time with the anniversaries - actually my father's anniverary was okay - I had a good relationship with him and he was ready to die when his time came and I feel he is close - but I never see him or hear him - just feel as if he is in my DNA
I realised that I stand very badly when I saw the family photo taken just before Christmas - and my daughter confirmed I stand like that most of the time - I didn't realise what was happening to my posture. But since Christmas I have been working hard to stand up straight - and it has been painful but I think I am gradually winning
It is great to win some of the time - just to pass through bad dates and find myself with a quiet day and I didn't have much to do and it was fine
Thanks my friend - we shall have to write something into Aboriginal Learnings - put Christmas and all that behind us and get on with the new year
Dec
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mel84Casual Contributor
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I feel very isolated living with my condition. It can get very lonely because people who don't suffer with a mental illness don't understand, and the only ones who do understand you are often unwell themselves.
I recently got a kitten, he's a therapy cat. When there's no words he's there. I don't have to justify or explain myself to him. He gives me purpose. He lifts my spirit and brings me joy. He eases my anxiety levels and playing with him gives my mind a break. Honestly, it's been the best thing because most of the time i find it exhausting dealing with people. Are you able to get a pet?
I recently got a kitten, he's a therapy cat. When there's no words he's there. I don't have to justify or explain myself to him. He gives me purpose. He lifts my spirit and brings me joy. He eases my anxiety levels and playing with him gives my mind a break. Honestly, it's been the best thing because most of the time i find it exhausting dealing with people. Are you able to get a pet?
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @mel84
I am glad you have your therapy cat - I have one of those and that is an excellent way of filling an empty place in your heart
I have had my cat for over 13 years now and as she gets older she is running around like an electric cat less and being very cuddly and sleeps a lot now but we are growing old together and she is very clever
Many people here have their furry, feathered and fishy friends - and I find cats the best - as you say - you don't have to be conversational with them - you have trouble using your energy dealing with people - but cats are just "there" - you can talk to them if and when you feel like it but whatever you do - your cat will fit into your life and ask very little and give a lot
I think cat's are wonderful
Dec
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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That's good to hear @Decadian.
Yes I should write more on the Aboriginal Leanings post - but not reading at the moment - as full time work assignment. And not going up to mountain. Need to wait for cool weather and fire season to be over before I do any more exploring.
I'm just going to do a quick 10 minute relaxation ap before I go back to work. Recharge my mind.
Yes I should write more on the Aboriginal Leanings post - but not reading at the moment - as full time work assignment. And not going up to mountain. Need to wait for cool weather and fire season to be over before I do any more exploring.
I'm just going to do a quick 10 minute relaxation ap before I go back to work. Recharge my mind.
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @utopia
We all have to prioritise and right now you have your full time work assignment - and that is forward looking and a good thing
That word "should" - we could do without it because we all know what we "should" be doing
I personally feel as if I had enough on my plate - and when I lie down I often find I am so tired I go to sleep and I do not like sleeping in the middle of the day -
However - I do have some comments for the thread - and I will get to that after January I think - I always feel flat and useless over January - it passes
All the best with your assignment
Dec
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Decadian. I hear what you are saying about 'should' - but it's the most appropriate word at the moment. As I have 3 local settler & aboriginal books that are due back to my lical library on Monday. And then I borrowed another 8 from a town about 90kms away. Lol. I got carried away when I saw the shelves full of books I haven't read. So I feel I really should get back into my research. I'd like to get back to it. But I am exhausted and brain dead after an 11 hour day at work.
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fleurdeliceNew Contributor
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I'm also a single mama - I have a lovely time with my precious 7-year-old, but I do struggle with loneliness after leaving my abusive ex.
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Hi @fleurdelice
Welcome to the forums, glad that you are here! I'm a single mama to a 5 and 8 year old. And also struggle with loniliness. Its a tough job.
hope that its helpful being on the forums!
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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Hi @fleurdelice & @mel84
I'm so glad you posted here. A big thank you to @Starshine for starting this important topic.
There are some great tips and practical advice earlier on in this thread, which I hope you find helpful.
I would also encourage you all to join some of our more social threads, which you can find in 'Enjoying time with others' if you just want to chat and connect with others.
@mel84 pets do a world of good - don't they!
Does anyone have any other advice to combat loneliness?
I'm so glad you posted here. A big thank you to @Starshine for starting this important topic.
There are some great tips and practical advice earlier on in this thread, which I hope you find helpful.
I would also encourage you all to join some of our more social threads, which you can find in 'Enjoying time with others' if you just want to chat and connect with others.
@mel84 pets do a world of good - don't they!
Does anyone have any other advice to combat loneliness?
