Same old

oh dear @Faith-and-Hope ... it must be sort of bitter sweet that he's realised the impact of his mother on the trip... i hope that he handles himself ok so that your holiday finishes up ok.

hugs for you, take care

lj

Thanks @Change123

I'm sorry about that post, i was just being very self absorbed i think... i know everyone on here has their own stuff. I always feel as though i've written the wrong things too.

i'm sorry you didnt get many responses yesterday 😞

Oh no about your SIL, thats terrible 😞 it's awful to be stuck in that kind of a situation. I hope that cutting contact with her will cause you much less stress. It did for me when i cut contact with my family, especially my mother. There was just no knowing when or where there would be massive issues from her.

My lil guy is really sore today and sad and tired. he tossed and turned all night and woke up a few times and i didnt sleep so feeling pretty tired. Have a meeting with a collegue today on what we need to do this year and im very nervous. but will get there. Having it here at home because lil guy is not well so been madly cleaning and tidying since 6am. anxiety is right up there though.

lj

@Former-Member Your doing great.

I was very selfabsorbed yesterday too, even put a post apologising when I realised later.

I did the same with my mother and sister about 10 years ago, they and my father were the cause of my BPD - father died about 20 years ago. Ever since I stopped contact with them my anxiety went down, feel so much better. I have learned, to stay healthy I need to keep away from toxic people and they all seem to be entwined with families. Like they say you can your friend but not your family - but that doesnt mean you have to put up with it - make the line and dont let them cross it! You and your son deserve peace.

Take care!

@Faith-and-Hope

Changing what was going to be the highlight of your trip must be disappointing for you all. I'm glad you are here on the forums too.

I'm glad you can see some process in moving stages, though i would imagine that he's likely to move in and out of one stage to another for a while... 7 years is such a long time to have struggled through this.

here with you

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sorry @Former-Member i know you must feel pressured to write back to me... you don't have to. i dont know why i dont tend to get responses from people but dont feel like you have to. you've had enough going on. i really dont want to be a burdon to you or anyone.

nobody has to reply it i dont want to be a pain on here. someone wrote a while ago about how some people get lots of respnse and feedback but i think its just me and its not that i havent got responses i know i have in the past. people are probably just over 'same old' stuff with me i guess its fine.

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Hi @Former-Member, back this week after a nice long break and just cruising around the Forums trying to get up to date with what's been going on. I just saw this post and wanted to say that you provide so much support here and so I'm sorry that you don't always get it back when you most need it. The Forums have grown so much in the time you've been around that I think it's simply harder to stay across everything and to notice when someone is reaching out for help. Certainly the intention is there and, based on karma alone, you are truly deserving. Thinking of you...

Thanks @Former-Member

The forums have evolved in different ways. i shouldnt have written any of those posts. not sure what i was thinking... not thinking at all probably. oops.

Glad you had a break, hope it was a good break and helped to recharge and refresh, been nice to see your posts around the forums today,

lj