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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Hi all
I’ll be spending some time away from the forums since I’m not doing so good, no safety concerns, but I think I’m just simply too much for everyone here on the forums. My emotions are too much. May brain is too much. I don’t want to drown people in my pain, everyone is better off with me off the forums. I hope our paths cross again. Will say goodbye and wish you all the best. Sorry for being a pain
creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
You are worth it @creative_writer but I can understand that negative voice inside our head.
Our MH can be so complex with so many different parts of it affecting us. There are so many challenges when it comes to relationships.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
There are many different types of relationships @creative_writer I'm sure there are others that have similar issues that you do.
Maybe it is just finding something that is right for you. You shouldn't have to sacrifice anything but
I know your culture pushes marriage, you have spoken of the pressure put on people before.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
I guess that answer is different for each relationship/marriage @creative_writer.
I know in my marriage that there is so much more to it than just sexual desire.
Yes intimacy does play a part in it, yet there are so many different ways on how to approach it too. I believe that communication in regards to it is so important.
With my history with SA, I struggle a lot with intimacy and sexual desire. I have been very open with my husband and he knows how much my past has affected me. He respects me and my choices. I'm not say that we aren't intimate with each other, I am saying that ours might look different to other couples. And there is nothing wrong with that.
I guess what I am trying to say is that sexual desire only makes up a small part of a marriage. I believe there is so much more that comes before that. Of course, my opinion might not be the same as someone else's.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@creative_writer I think it probably does need to be discussed early on and it does differ from one relationship to another. I'm not saying it isn't a part of the relationship, I guess I am just saying it's not the most important thing.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
I guess we don't know what is in our future @creative_writer and that comes with relationships too.
I really hope that you do find someone in time and that you do find that comfort and trust with them.
Am going to head to bed now. Thanks so much for the chat tonight. There are so many things that effect our MH, this is just one of them.
I hope you are able to get some sleep tonight and tomorrow is a good day for you.
Chat soon hon 💗💗
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