When a Carer / wife / Husband / Partner is in need of meds herself / himself

Hi @Former-Member as i am a foreigner in australia i dont know much how hospital there or which one to call..all i know of is 000. I've been gathering info from his mom coz shes the one who stood by him regardless of their differences (they always clashed my partner and his mom both headstrong) ..i got his gp's name and number but he wouldnt want to really go..he only mention he wanted to go when he have depressions and its always in the middle of the night..the following morning he gets frustrated if i mention it again..he hated when i research on MI and tell me he is not a nutcase..i didnt even confront him about it..just quietly browsing internet without sounds just to know more..i do my research during dawn as he is asleep..thats how im determine to know more about it..but now im thinking whats the use if he doesnt want to admit he has a MI.

Hi @Maryjune

MI puts a strain on even the most robust of relationships. In Australia there is carer support available.

Lack of insight is common in schizophrenia and other MI. You and tour partners mum might want to have a look at the YouTube sessions mentioned in this post.

https://saneforums.org/t5/What-s-new-services-research/Lack-of-insight/m-p/148055#U148055

Darcy

My partners an aussie ..im a foreigner..his mom told me she will walk away now so its just me and his dog thats left in his life..thats how sad it is.

And @Former-Member thank you sooo much for that link..im sure il learn more from that link...thanks xxx

Hi @Faith-and-Hope..you have a beautiful family ..your husband is so lucky to have you at his side on his fight..and i cant thank enough in finding this forumn ..as i am so lost..I was not aware of MI until i found my partner..i thought if a persons have a MI they will be locked up in a mental institute as not to cause harm to normal people..but now i realized how ignorant i was then..i remember my partner then when he was having dellusions that im poisoning him ..he told me it hurts so much coz he love me and he cant trust me and worst he cant trust himself for thinking all those bad thoughts that i might be poisoning him..its like watching him doing battles within himself..if only i could get in his mind and fight whatever demons i would..but i cant..then in a few hours he switched to like a small child asking for help in the middle of the night that he wanted to talk to his gp coz he cant handle it anymore..the next morning he switched back to "im not a nutcase why do i need to go to gp ?" ..i went home to my home country heavy hearted and worried ..a few days after his mom called me to say he admitted himself to mental ward and cant come out they wouldnt let him out..as my ticket is on march 7 i cant do anythimg but to wait for the day i could visit him in the hospital . I hope this time i hope i could speak to his gp..as im just a partner not his kin family ..i hope his gp would find time to talk to me.

I hope the GP will talk to you @Maryjune because you need support and understanding too .....

If my hubby was diagnosed the medical staff could talk to me ..... but at the moment there is still a privacy wall up that is supported by law ..... it's really hard.

I am so glad your partner admitted himself and is receiving treatment .... I dream about that day, but I am under no illusion that our problems will be suddenly and miraculously resolved ..... still a lot of hard times to get through after that point, but at least they will be able to see the problem, where it is still invisible at the moment, and understand the weight of it on the family.

Take good care of yourself in the meantime ..., spend time with people who care about you and self-nurture with things you need and enjoy. It is so important to "care for the carer" and recharge your batteries ..... it's a long walk .....

Hi @Maryjune

Not sure what state your partner is in but each has their own mental health act which you can look up on the internet. There are rules in relation to communication with carers and families that the doctors are obliged to follow. These rules involve the giving of information. This information is usually in the mental health guidelines.

Sounds like he might be on a treatment order if the hospital would not let him out.

There are a number of schizophrenia support groups available depending on where you live ARAFMI might be a good place to start.


Darcy

Hi @Maryjune

It is difficult when you are so far away.

This is some information about relationships from Every day health.

Caregiving for someone with schizophrenia is a huge job, tiring and frustrating at times. Current and former partners of people with schizophrenia seem to agree that the following two criteria can make or break a relationship:

The ill partner must accept treatment. Untreated schizophrenia can make people behave erratically. The other partner may become subject to verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and delusional accusations. No healthy relationship can sustain this.

The well partner must create a support system. Schizophrenia affects your partner's ability to meet your emotional needs, so you will need your own support system outside the relationship. Caregivers tend to suffer from depression, so it's important to have access to mental health support, like a counselor or therapist. Friends and family can provide a listening ear, a much needed distraction, and a sense of normalcy.

Both partners must communicate. Open and clear communication will help the partner with schizophrenia get the support he or she needs as well as understand what’s expected of him or her in the relationship. In addition to individual therapy, marital therapy can help both partners cope with the effects schizophrenia has on the relationship.

From:
http://www.everydayhealth.com/hs/schizophrenia-caregiver-guide/schizophrenia-and-relationships/

@Former-Member hi everyone xxx
This group is really a blessing, i get to know more and expect whats to come..i know my relationship with my partner would be a rollercoaster ride. Financially i dont know until when i can hold on but i wanted to be there for him. You see i know ive been whining about how nasty his words are when he is having dellusions..but there are moments that makes me love him more. One time he showed me how his life as a homeless where he sleeps and whos his mates there ..we saw someone eating by the corner and he started talking to him encourage him to go find work , you can still find your way etc..im in tears watching him he is way way far from what he show to his family..with his family he is selfish self centered..i realized he is trying to belong but his family just level him to a nutcase and every words he say doesnt weigh..he have different way of showing his affection to me..i love flowers he never bought one..but he planted daisies from seeds..he never said anything about why he planted but i knew its for me..he recently lost his job 4days before christmas and that triggered the dellusions..i pray to God to give us strength for our love ones coz they are not a burden but someone we love that i feel if its the reverse they would do what we do for them..reading all post here makes me think this world is worth living for because theres beautiful people such as people here who love unconditionally.