Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

@Shaz51, I guess you've had way too much rain up your way already. Meanwhile here, we're not getting enough.
But glad you got some downtime together.

love to send some down your way @Smc xxx

Totally understand @Smc

I get so totally fed up with the shift changes I feel like tearing my hair out at times - but I have learned to be assertive and because I have a package with an agency I have learned to extend my assertive behaviour and friendly attittude in that direction and get help from a different agency other than the council - but it drains me

And I know other people dont have the core hours I do because I have been in the system for so long - and I wasn't grey and doddery when I started - but without this help I would be alone and think with chronic spinal pain it would very hard to cope with ordinary tasks like vacuuming and cleaning the shower etc - and I would fall back internet shopping but I really like to get out to the shops and the regular people I have are friendly - so it's a mixed bag of goodies but I wouldn't want my daughter doing all that for me - I just can't see her being happy about it but I might be wrong

The last thing I want to do is go into an old age place and I know they vary and my parents were in a very good one but I didn't like it there - it felt like the inside of the Titanic and I felt like running round yelling "Jack. Jack" and felt as if I was in a maze with identical passages going everywhere

As someone said - ''Óld age is no place for sissies" - I so agree. And I get annoyed when people tell me that age is only a number or people are only as old as they feel. I tell them to wait until they get here -

So - we are stuck with choices we would rather not make - I get it

Dec

@Shaz51

Good one @Former-Member.
@Owlunar, if you did the Titanic thing, I think you might get an interesting but not very constructive response from the staff?
The home my parents are now in is also one of the good ones, but even the simple thing of living in a communal setting is a huge change, and its one of the basic things in common in all care homes.

ohhh @Former-Member ,

my uncle has decided he wants to go , his daughters are staying close

my mum is very frail

I ammmm feeling soooo teary as mum has had panic attacks and knowing her brother in law is going , makes it hard

keep crying today

@Shaz51 saying goodbye is ever so hard.

nice morning tea yesterday wirh aunty , uncle , mum and cousins @Former-Member , but today very teary all day

mum had to have a sleeping tablet last night at the hospital and she ran to the toilet 7 times this morning

sooooo tired

@Shaz51

Sherry 🌸😢💕🤗

thank you @Former-Member xoxo