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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2016, 11:56 am AEDT

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Apr 2018, 5:14 pm AEST

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hello @Former-Member, how is mr @Former-Member with emotions

Are you finding that even the enjoyable things are too much for Mr Shaz? -- yes @Former-Member, don1t know if it is part of Bipolar 11 or something else

but my poor darling will spent a morning driving and doing photograhy and then he is soo tired and needs to go to bed

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Unknown userMember30 Apr 2018, 5:45 pm AEST

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@Shaz51

I know Mr D has difficulty enjoying a lot of things that are usually pleasurable and he finds memories of enjoyable times distressing - he sees them more of what he has lost rather than things to be looked back on with fondness. Mr D will often snooze in the recliner when reading of an afternoon after doing his round the house jobs in the morning. Today he did some mowing in our yard so did not sleep but came in for a drink feeling quite distressed as he was having ocd thoughts.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Apr 2018, 6:11 pm AEST

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today`s emotion was alarming , I am feeling soo sorry for my mum @Former-Member

interested in the ocd thoughts @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember30 Apr 2018, 6:25 pm AEST

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How was Mr Shaz emotional @Shaz51?

Mr D's ocd thoughts are all quite benign in many ways but very disabling for him - he worries about things ike not pronouncing words right or thanking me in good time for doing things (when he gets bad, with others too) for example I got a sorry recently as he had not thanked me at an appropriate time for cooking lunch Christmas Day 2016. I don't know if the thoughts are more intrusive rather than repetitive, but he certainly ruminates.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Apr 2018, 6:39 pm AEST

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Not @Former-Member, we were doing some trimming for mum and mr shaz pull somebig weeds out and knocked mum over and I had to pick her upoff th ground and he kept going

then on friday when we were working , he came and gave me a big hug and said he could not live without me

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Unknown userMember30 Apr 2018, 7:04 pm AEST

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Oh dear @Shaz51, did he not notice he had knocked mum over?

Mr D is not spontaneous with his affection, hugs at specific times and has a few loving phrases that he repeats but it is his way of expressing love and I am grateful he does so. When he is not doing so well, some of these hugs get dropped but I usually get one or two a day minimum.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Apr 2018, 7:38 pm AEST

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When he is not doing so well, some of these hugs get dropped , same here @Former-Member

did he not notice he had knocked mum over?-- he knew alright @Former-Member, But i think because mum got up ok then she was ok

But mum is ok , I just rang her and everything is good

hugs at specific times and has a few loving phrases that he repeat, same here @Former-Member

I make sure I hug him different times of the day

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Unknown userMember01 May 2018, 6:56 pm AEST

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@Shaz51

Hope mum still OK and no delayed effects from bump.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor01 May 2018, 8:26 pm AEST

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Hi @Former-Member

mum said her shoulder is a bit sore today , so she had a very lazy day

then she told me she had a fall on sunday and landed on her shoulder and arm

how ae you today @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember01 May 2018, 8:42 pm AEST

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Oh dear @Shaz51 that is a bit concerning.

Mr D has gone to a camp for 2 nights. It is for a peer support group. He has a couple of medical appts to go to tomorrow, I would usually go along to one of them, as we are not expecting complications Mr D should be right on his own. Am feeling a little nervous, hoping he will be ok as he has been struggling a little lately.

On a completely different note, a friend popped in briefly this evening after dark to dispatch a couple of unwanted roosters for us for which I was most grateful.

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