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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2016, 11:56 am AEDT

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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Unknown userMember13 Nov 2017, 6:57 pm AEDT

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All part of the long haul @Faith-and-Hope

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor13 Nov 2017, 7:01 pm AEDT

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Feel like we're not even off the starter's block with ours yet @Former-Member ...... your grace under fire is a steadying influence.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor13 Nov 2017, 7:37 pm AEDT

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dear @Jacques

Thanks....

Is'nt this what Sane forums is really about ? About supporting each other when we have our ups and downs.....Ill write soon, I'm just getting my brain organizzed for tonight xx

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Unknown userMember13 Nov 2017, 9:03 pm AEDT

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@Faith-and-Hope
Pdoc suggested that sometimes carers need to get support. I told her I was well supported (which I am) but reading between the lines to me I might need

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Unknown userMember13 Nov 2017, 9:17 pm AEDT

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@Faith-and-Hope

Reading between the lines, think they may feel I need to step back a bit and perhaps be a bit more trusting (something I do struggle with given past events) either that or I am coming across as anxious ... or both.

In any event, I will make an appt with a counselor to follow up.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor13 Nov 2017, 9:28 pm AEDT

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I have found it worthwhile @Former-Member ..... just to have someone hear me in the first instance ..... understand and believe me in the second ...... be able to reassure me that I was doing everything within my power and the available support for my circumstances in the third ..... and to kee an eye on me to make sure I wasn't going under without realising.

When there is a heavy / unresolvable load to carry, I highly recommend support for the carer ..... or even if they just feel the need for it for any reason .....

It can be seriously hard to see the wood for the trees.
♥️ @Former-Member ....

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Unknown userMember13 Nov 2017, 9:48 pm AEDT

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I do see a psychologist, last appt just over a week ago. Don't know if he is a good fit.
Think it's the going under without me realising that is of concern @Faith-and-Hope.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor13 Nov 2017, 10:00 pm AEDT

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Yep ..... definitely worth following up on then @Former-Member ..... but there are carer's support services available, so maybe there is someone, or a support group circumstance, that would suit you better.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor14 Nov 2017, 1:10 am AEDT

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@JacquesIt was lovely to hear from you. It has been so long.

I guess you know the news about my son which has involved an EXTREMELY stressful few months, but I love him and am proud of him for many of his traits and qualities.

I know you understand and have those experiences with your aunt. Her situation is SAD, but as you said you and your mother do have rights in the situation. Have you moved out or have space set up for yourself at home? It was really bad when your aunt moved in and you did not even have your own bedroom.

I can see your mother seems caught between a rock and a hard place trying to love everyone and do the right thing, even if things are slightly better accomodation wise.

I really appreciate your gentle hugs and HUG you back.

I am SO GLAD you have a decent romantic relationship.

@Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51

@Former-MemberGlad Mr D is out of surgery and doing better.

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JacquesSenior Contributor14 Nov 2017, 10:56 am AEDT

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Hi My virtual mum @Appleblossom

no sorry i missed what happened to your son, im sorry, i hope he is ok, gentle hugs to you and him, i know you have both really struggled. i have struggled to be on here as much because of everything going on in my life.

yes, she moved out and got a appartment, then she got paranoid and she has moved 3 times now, all because she feels people are stalking her, she has a horrible existance and she is so scared all the time, it is so cruel how the government allows people to suffer because it is too scared to help them.

yes, mum always wantes to protect her, i guess it is the motherly instinct. or sisterly love, im not sure, but it is really stressful and upsetting for me personally, our lives are changed forever.

thank you @Appleblossom, my GF is amazing, she is so supportive of me and i am of her. we are taking things really slow and just enjoying the journey.

i hope you are having a nice day today.

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