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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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OwlunarSenior Contributor

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I love that @soul

I wonder what it would say about a male pregnancy - now some of us know that the male sea-horse gets all the eggs into his pouch and gives birth himself - so a male pregnancy is not unknown

I have to see what Cortana has to say about this idea though

Dec

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soulSenior Contributor

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If men were able to get pregnant, that would be the end of the human race @Owlunar.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor

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Hi @soul

I think the idea was that if every second pregnancy had to be carried by the male then the human race would diminish - and considering the over-crowding on the planet - maybe that would be a good idea

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hello @Blueberry

come and meet @Owlunar, @soul, @Former-Member, @Determined, @Faith-and-Hope

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Unknown userMember

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Hello @Blueberry

Nice to meet you. Most of us here have much loved dogs (we have 2 whippets). What type of dog do you have? (I don't think that
@Faith-and-Hope has any pets but could be wrong).

Whilst I understand not everyone can do it, finding this thread where others are committed to their partners and have learned how to cope has been less isolating for me.

Looking forward to getting to know you.

Darcy

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BlueberryContributor

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Hi @Former-Member nice to meet you and thank you for making me feel welcome.
Ours is a rescue dog but we are pretty confident she is a sharpei and staffy cross.
Things have been a bit easier since my husband has been willing to be more open about his illness. But I think that it is hard for people who aren't carers to understand how constant and intense it can be to live with someone who has a chronic illness. And to be honest I often feel defensive in conversations about it as I am worried that if i say "this is hard", it might be taken as a reflection on my husband.
Thank you for listening (*reading*:))
How old are your dogs?

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soulSenior Contributor

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Hi @Blueberry, nice to meet you and your rescue dog. Poor @Faith-and-Hope if she doesn't have a dog. How does she go for a walk?

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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We have a German Shepherd guard dog ..... you don't take him for a walk, he takes you !! Lol ..... he's on rocket fuel ..... :face_with_rolling_eyes:

I don't take him walking cos I need a relaxing time out on my walks @soul ..... but he has a heart of gold .... he has taught me to like dogs ....., being an all-out cat person myself ..... but WH hates cats ..... at least he says he hates cats cos his mum hates cats, but I think if we had one he would fall in love with it ..... only his OCD is preventing him from wanting to touch anything much at the moment so a cat would drive him nuts while he is this ill ..... but his well self would learn to appreciate a car very quickly I think .....

That wasn't muddled much, was it ? Might need a power nap sometime soon ....,

😜🤣

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Unknown userMember

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@Blueberry

Our tan brindle boy is 10 and our blonde girl 3, they are Mr Darcy's best friends, particularly the boy.

No need to hold back or feel defensive here, it is hard work and we understand, just tell it like it is, we do the same.

@Shaz51 (aka Shazzle Dazzle) is the resident expert on a husband with depression and she has been kind enough to answer some questions that I had. Her husband (aka Mr Shaz) might be coming down with the man flu whilst she has been soldiering on, crook for some days and still has a sore neck.

Darcy

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Hi @Blueberry and welcome 🙂

I am also a dog lover, have 2 Scotch Collies.

I would like to second @Former-Member that being able to come here and discuss things makes beign a carer much less isolating.

You mentioned "I am worried that if i say "this is hard", it might be taken as a reflection on my husband".

I totall get this.... I avoid talking about my darling and her trails for the same reason, being able to come here has give me the opportunity to discuss how and why it is hard helping me to feel not so alone. I have particually appreciated the support and love shown even in the last couple of days.

Looking forward to getting to know you also

D

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