Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

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@Shaz51 wrote:

Hello @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @soul, @Determined, @Former-Member

they took my hubby off the support list saying -- " we don`t know how to help you if you don`t help yourself "

we were angry, and I was unsure what to do back then , and hubby didn`t want to do anything about it , so that is why we are alone

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@Hello @Shaz51

they? If he doesn't help himself?? He is working. He is part of a loving relationship! What part of that is not helping himself.

whichever organisation there has to be an appeal system where you can appeal the decision. Careers Australia should be able to offer assistance, direction.

give them a call first and let us know the outcome.xx

Hi @Shaz51 - that is not very helpful of them to do that to you and your hubby! Is it long to get an appointment with the specialist?

@Shaz51 I am still reeling from your last post. I know it must be difficult for you but it is worth a try while he is amenable, there will be a wait and if it is anything like where I live there is such a change in staff the same doc might not even be around.

@Faith-and-Hope ...

Hello @Shaz51

do you mean ask for a referral for psychiatrist or psychologist he saw before?

if so yes get referral often waiting period. Mr Shaz has a right to choose who he wants to see.

who made previous comment about not helping himself? Gp? Are there other gps at clinic?

hello @Former-Member

a referral for psychiatrist or psychologist he saw before? yes the one he saw when he was put in hospital 60km away

who made previous comment about not helping himself --- the Psychiatrist tansfered him to the local mental health unit where my hubby has been before -- he said he did not want to go there , he was happy to drive 60 kms to see the bigger meantal health unit

I'm okay @Shaz51. Just trying to keep negativity at bay.

yes @Shaz51 @Grasshopper3

see reply below from matosh. if mr shaz is happy about hospital mental unit, ring and ask if he can see a psychiatrist there before you drive all the way over. Explain on the telephone, how your husband is feeling. This would definitely be the best outcome for Mr Shaz.

Driving there is more work for you. Could you break it up and stop for a coffee on way back somewhere that you both like. Mr Shaz might like that you are getting something out of it too. I know that he worries a lot about you.

Let us know what transpires.

Good luck xx