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The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

The Art of Reframing - Back by popular demand!

Hey Forums Friends,

In my recovery, I've often wondered how to better help myself with negative talk. You know? All those voices that tell you that everything will go wrong. All those voices that tell you that you are wrong? Those voices that are the loudest in the evenings?

Well one skill I've learnt and practised and found effective is:

REFRAMING

Reframing is about looking at an issue in a different and more constructive way.

First, we must consider our own perspective. What exactly IS our perspective?

Then, we consider an alternative, more constructive meaning/interpretation.

By doing this, it helps us connect the dots of our story and allows us to look at the issue from a new, more useful perspective.

Example 1: "I never do anything right!"

Reframe: "I feel I never do anything right, but this isn't necessarily true"

Example 2: "All the people hate me."

Reframe: "I think people hate me but it doesn't mean everyone."

Example 3: "My family are so irritating. I can't stand them."

Reframe: "My family is under a lot of stress right now. I know it must be hard for them."

Please add negative thoughts you've come across and the reframe that can be consider. OR, if you are stuck, let the community help you come up with something. Just let us know the thought. No need to name names. You can generalise your comment.

Tagging those who may be interested @Rockdog @Healandlove @Shiki @Shaz51 @EternalFlower @RoseGeranium @Glisten @Birdofparadise8 @Dimity @NatureLover @Clawde @Captain24

Sorry, not sure who else to tag. Please tag anyone who may be interested.

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What's on everyone's mind today? @Glisten @Shaz51 @meu2 @The-red-centaur . Anything to reframe?

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Hello @tyme

My thoughts sometimes is

"Why Me "

Reframe --- " why not me " 😊

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Nice! Thanks for sharing @Shaz51

I really appreciate that statement reframe. So so helpful.

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@tyme I think reframing is an excellent way to train my brain 🧠 Keeping my focus and energy inwards to what I need to do for me.

Doing the basics for yourself is hard slog. There is no fast and easy dopamine rush.

Harder if you have been breadcrumbed into neglecting yourself for whatever cause, like you're going to be rewarded for it.

Reframing is a good tool.

My daughter in law is Chinese. She said we think too much and we need to take more positive action - Do more positive for you.

I’m inclined to agree with her.

G

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Agreed @Glisten .

If you ever notice your reframing, please note it down here.

I'll do the same. I think I do it so much now that I don't even see it as reframing anymore. It's just part of me. And I think that's something to work towards as this is what keeps us going.

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Totally agree @tyme I shall do

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@Shaz51 I don’t know how I missed your post about your father and your mother leaving that is so heartbreaking The toxic in-laws.
You got a heavy load there.

My mom died when I was 7. Dad was ADHD before it was a thing. Emotional roller coaster, my needs didn’t really exist.

But here we all are learning the good stuff.

G

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@tyme @Shaz51 @meu2 @GardensHeart @The-red-centaur

They ghosted me. I’m not good enough.

They ghosted me. They have nothing to bring to the relationship.

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Thought "They think I'm an idiot."

Reframe "They want to see me improve"

I had an upset yesterday that really affected me and I felt down for the first time in a really long time. I went to bed feeling down, and thought "Maybe I'll wake up feeling better"... no not really. I was still a bit unsure when I woke up... but as the day went on, things got better, and I've been able to use reframing to help be see the thought from a different perspective.

@Glisten @Shaz51 @meu2 @The-red-centaur

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Aww hugs my @tyme

Soo glad you started feeling better as the day went on and I am soo glad to see you today 😊

4am thought

"My family don't care about me "

Reframe --- " my family are still sleeping "

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