Oscillation between two mind sets

Thanks heaps for that @creative_writer 🤗🌺💜

glad to hear you slept ok and have had a chance to rest after submitting one of the assignments, and the other is nearly done..it’s a good feeling being on the other side of the mountain climb of big tasks, I find 🙂🌺

I hope the coming week goes well, and I do agree that there does come a time to know that the work is good enough to submit without taking time away to do more that is of lesser value than the time spent to do so 🙂

Yes, having extensions I do understand is like not getting things in on time in a way, however I also extend timeframes as much as I can because it gives me the space I need based on reduced capacity; I kind of think of it like this: I have less capacity so to provide equity, I take longer; whereas someone with breather capacity can achieve the same in a shorter time. Same result (assignment done), just achieved in different ways because the variables are different due to individual differences. Therefore there really is no ‘weak point’ that needs work with obtaining extensions when capacity is less. To not have extensions when capacity is reduced means working harder to achieve the same thing in the same timeframes as a person with greater work capacity. This applies across many areas of life, work, and society 🙂🌺

One thing I do think is that people with reduced work capacity who also live with mental health concerns have often been made to feel undeserving of any adjustments 💜 which then results in lots of additional pressure to produce results despite needing supports, extra time, or alternate task parameters 🙂

…sorry for the long tangent - I tend to ramble a bit sometimes! 😊

today has been a good day here thank you dearest, and I hope you’re doing ok this evening 💜🙂🌺

I do feel lazy for always getting extensions. But my brain doesn’t always concentrate, at times, I get stuff done at the last moment because it’s hard getting started. It has caused enormous amount of stress. I’m talking about new deadlines after extension. Extensions don’t make me space out my work, I often end up still cramming. The only thing that really got me through this assignment patch was matcha, I can’t do anything without my cuppa. I felt like I had zero capacity to function. I know this is probably something that warrants further investigation. I always thought I was stupid and lazy, but now I am starting to wonder whether there is something going on here. In fact, not being able to do thing feeds into the cptsd rumination. All this time I thought I was not making enough effort in therapy, it turns out I probably had a block in my brain.

It is hard with reduced capacity. I hope the evening goes okay for you. I am having the evening slump right now, migraines love the evenings

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Yeah I do understand what you are saying regarding extensions @creative_writer 💜

Its not easy to remain on a schedule with cPTSD .. I can relate to not starting work adding to stress xx

How are you doing today?

I hope things have been going alright, and your evening is ok xx

Hey @creative_writer sorry you've had a day full of sensory overload. I hope you've recovered/your migraine has eased off?

Be gentle with yourself hun, you'll never have to do today again 💜

@creative_writer I'm sorry things were so dang rough yesterday, I'm glad you found your way through. Has today been easier on you?

Aww yay @creative_writer so glad placement was good today!

Mm it can be frustrating to have our brains go 'Hmm here, have an emotion, dunno why, just get overwhelmed by it pls, kthx'. I think sometimes it can even just be the habit of it - if you always feel low in the evenings, then even when there's nothing to prompt the emotions your body is still just like 'oh sun is down, time for sadness'.