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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Sometimes I feel like I’m on top of things and don’t feel like my trauma defines me and I don’t feel so ashamed and scared. Other times I want to hide from the world and feel like a **** (I’m not going to say the word here since I don’t want to trigger anyone) 😭, I feel so ashamed that I don’t want people to know
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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lavenderhazeSenior Contributor
Good morning @creative_writer
I am sorry that you didn't have a good start to the day
I'm here to chat, sitting with you ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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lavenderhazeSenior Contributor
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It's okay to have those unhelpful thoughts, but it's also great that you're aware of them and taking steps to stay safe.
I can empathise with you - feeling like you were making progress and then hitting a setback can be disheartening, but no journey is linear and it's very human to experience setbacks. It doesn't mean that all the progress you've made is lost or that you're starting from square one. You've already shown so much strength and resilience in getting to where you are now, and I believe you have the strength to overcome this obstacle too @creative_writer. ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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lavenderhazeSenior Contributor
I can imagine @creative_writer, it must take so much energy to navigate these thoughts.
You have a lot on your plate right now. When is your next appointment with your psych?
Can you talk to them about what's happening?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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lavenderhazeSenior Contributor
aw hun @creative_writer sounds like it's been a tough time for you lately
I can imagine fighting off those urges isn't easy. Do you have any alternative coping methods that you can use to release some of those feelings?
I usually blast music and jump around when I am feeling intense emotions. I also use ice on my face to sometimes feel more present in the moment. You could also try journaling if you like?
I hope the appointment comes quickly so you can process some of your big feelings
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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hey there @creative_writer 💜🌺
so much going on sweetheart - Im really sorry to hear things are feeling so intense, and its hard to fight urges and to keep strong with your skills and tools to keep safe... I really can understand why its getting tiring xx
Hang in there darling - take it minute by minute when you need to, and remember we are here for you, holding space with you in the place you are at, and sitting there alongside you, ok?
I hope the placement meeting goes ok this arvo - feel free to update how you are whenever you'd like to xx
I hope the next meeting with the psych can help, too.. till then, hold strong and go gently dearest xx
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