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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
or the garden, or wherever.
Just wanted to make this thread so I can write whatever I want and talk to people without taking over everyone else’s threads or like derailing conversations for everyone else.
just gonna post what I would normally post elsewhere but all in the one place I guess
whoever wants to respond can and is welcome (I hate just talking to myself)
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tymeModerator
Hey @ArraDreaming ,
But also remember, you went out not long ago, and you had a great time. Don't let this one person (whom you have only met once in your life) ruin you.
Rather, focus on those who DO matter to you and those who you have met more than once!
I hear it hurts now and it may take some time to heal. This is because we are human. Just like the really difficult events I experienced early this week. I couldn't have thrown in the towel and quit life, but I didn't. I sat with the hurt, and when it was time, I debriefed with someone to get closure.
You can do it too. It doesn't mean you will never get hurt - it's about what you are going to do now as a 28 year old - raise above it? or let it make you a hermit.
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tymeModerator
Yes, and the more you try and not think about it, the more your brain will think about it @ArraDreaming
It took about 3 days for me to move on from what happened for me earlier this week.
I'm sharing to let you know that the rumination of these thoughts is a perfectly human way of behaving. It's not because you are stupid or a 'loser'.
If it happened today, it might feel a bit raw to talk about? Otherwise I'm here if you want to talk about how it felt then and after.
You mentioned you were made to feel like an idiot in front of others. Do you know for certain that people felt this way about you? I'm wondering whether they thought it about the other person instead?
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tymeModerator
Words can hurt. We know that @ArraDreaming . Now it's about how to heal so you don't let the person keep you down. You are better than that.
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