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I think I’m anxious? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The Super settlement

I think I’m anxious? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The Super settlement

@tyme @tonys @Jynx

Narcissistic coercive control survivor 👋🏼 moment. 🥁

I’ve had his offer of settlement from his lawyers in my email inbox since August 2023.
I did forewarn them I would be looking at it until the end of September.

Waited until I had an appointment with Legal Aid to look at it. I was scared of being triggered, that didn’t happen.

Even when I read the words “Westpac Back account held jointly with new partner ___”

All I thought was, he got exactly what he wanted very quickly. First thing he wanted me to do was have a joint bank account. I said No, he stole all my Savings anyway.

I thought I’d be upset reading his next victim’s name. But no.

I think I’m just anxious representing myself against his lawyer.

I think it is the years of psychological and emotional abuse, that worn me down and now I have to haggle the best deal I can get.

Literally my future depends on it.

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Re: settlement - I’m not OK

Shadows only a centipede's walk across the sun dial, and look at the difference in you, you little shining star you.

How do I know you. Lets see. You are the person that the walkouts at the office relied on to always sort the mess. The person that smiled as you served their dispassionate faces with thankyous that never came. That gave away bouquets of love and honour to vases devoid of water.

A turning point awaits us all and it takes one or one hundred of those, black whole, people to bring about a new way of greeting the sunrise. Depends just how much beauty you had in you for them to feed on.

I look for different things in people and life than I did when my eyes were young.

Those people and things are out there. They can be innocuous, searching for values that cant be bought or applied like make up and shiny objects. They are there. I found them. You will too.

My money's with the smart money, and its all backing you sister.

Best to you @Glisten tonys..

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Re: I think I’m anxious? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The Super settlement

Oh , @Glisten forgot to say, and I know I'm a little crazy but mate, don't try too sleep.

Find your favourite movie, book, and music, and try your hardest to stay awake.

A field of dreams awaits you.. tones.

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Re: I think I’m anxious? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The Super settlement

Dear @tonys & the Bookkeeper @Gemma13 It’s been a long time since we were here.

I miss you so much mate. I really do. We’ve traveled a long way together.
Your beautiful Bookkeeper Gemma gave me your letter and I keep with me always.

Gemma tells us that you have been communicating with the stars ✨

Sending messages to me to push through I think because I honestly don’t know where I pulled the strength from.

I crossed five lawyers off the short list and number six is the winner.

They have earned their money. The paralegal had to nurse me through June.

@tonys May was hard, but June was rough.
It took me the entire month to put together 34 files.
I didn’t go to the Shed, I didn’t do anything else except sauna, sleep work on the files.

I was having trauma responses and there are sections of my memory that I have blocked out entirely.

But I did it. Got it done and submitted to my lawyer, who has submitted it to the Narc’s lawyer.

Now we wait. We know we will get an offer, how much we don’t know.

But from the Narc’s bank statements, I can tell you that he won’t want my lawyer to dig any further.
So he’ll have to pay me to stop digging.

What we have found is a $40,000 gambling addiction and that’s just the beginning of it.

I raised the colours and I still got a little more to dry powder 💥 for another volley.

You and the Bookkeeper are constantly in my thoughts. I wish I could be there to help her with the house. Repairs and stuff. Poor woman needs 3 of herself.

I’m going back to the Shed next week. Think I’ll learn welding for a little while.
I need to put space between me and the social people.

I’ll explain later.

I miss you Huck. Life doesn’t feel the same without my Huckleberry friend.

G

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Hey 👋🏼 @Kyle1 wanted to say thank you very much for your support way back when I posted this back in October 2023.

8 months ago - feels longer.
You were very kind to me and I really appreciate it.
So many times I didn’t know how I was going to survive this experience.

It’s not over yet. But if this was a card game, I’d be holding all the Aces.

There is a definite bright light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope you have been keeping well and that life is being kind to you.

With heartfelt gratitude

G

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@Jynx @Kyle1 @tonys It has been just over 1 year since this war of attrition began.

Falling through women’s services gaps, a body count of 5 lawyers, number 6 was the winner.

@tonys said hoist the colours.

My ex aka HeadlikeaBowlingBall, has been less than enthusiastic to disclose his financial documents.

He is deliberately delaying in the hope that we will reach the 2 year deadline without any action.

He was wrong.

Yesterday I received the paperwork from my lawyer to lodge an application in the WA Family Court seeking Final and Interim orders. She didn’t hold back.

I’m looking forward to signing these documents and emailing them back to her.

Thank you for your continued support. I wouldn’t be here today without you.

G

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Oh ho ho what amazing news @Glisten!! Glad you finally found a lawyer worth her salt. How you feeling about it all? Does this mean you will finally be able to close this chapter soon?

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Don’t know @Jynx it depends on what

HeadlikeaBowlingBall does. How he reacts is anyone’s guess.

It will take as long, as it takes.

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@Glisten ach, how it is sometimes hey. You are honestly an inspiration hun, your attitude displays an immense fortitude, and it makes me feel like if I had you follow me around as a motivational speaker I would be able to accomplish anything!! 🤣😘

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This is it folks. Over the top.

2:15 tomorrow. Friday FriYAY

https://youtu.be/mkzNrIg7Vg0?si=G6b2E3MVkDXYH_l2

@tonys @Kyle1 @tyme @Gemma13

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Woohoo! FriYAY!! @Glisten What's your current/next project?

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