I think I’m anxious? 🤷🏼‍♀️ The Super settlement

Hi @Jynx @tonys @Kyle1 I am NOT OK.

I'm here @Glisten

Let's talk...

Have you slept yet?..

mmm... it's not an easy thing, is it.

Gosh.

Those flashbacks and memories...is there a particular time in the day, or situation that elicit these for you? Like, laying down to sleep? When doing the dishes? Trying to watch t.v. ?

If there are triggers to identify, it could be a good starting point...

For me, its random. Happens anywhere, anytime... I have identified some triggers along the way tho...and I can do work with those.

I'm sorry, @Glisten

Listen. You're not alone.

What have been upto this morning?

Thank you @Kyle1 It is the settlement paperwork, I can’t avoid dealing with it, because I can’t afford a lawyer.

I’m on my own in an apartment.

Moreover it’s that during the relationship everything was my fault all the time.

That night he was abusing me, he had someone else that he was happy with and still holding me responsible for the relationship. 🤯

MMMMMmm yes , well unfortunately some of this guys poison arrow remains in you. We are all on your side, and our bandages of words are hastily applied to stem the flow. Then the rest will heal only with the passage of time, maybe qualified help, and you placing things away on shelves in your mind with that organizational and logical strength I know you possess. I have seen in in you before.

You will have to go through this, so might as well take the scenic route. Rise above him friend.

He will have many victims to amuse himself with and you'll soon be of his radar. Then life will bring him rancid fruits. But take no joy in it when it happens For you are better than that.

Deep breaths @Glisten . Deep slow breaths. . . Your better than all of this.

And now think of things wonderful to come. tonys.

paperwork !! That has been so heavy for me, I've sort support workers just to help with that alone@ (haven't secured one yet...😖)

Ouch... I really do know your pain @Glisten

I'm right there, too. Goodness. You need a hug. I NEED A HUG !

PJ sister..let's hug 🫂🫂

do you think getting out of the apartment for a little while might help?

Quick shower. Don something you find nice. Treat yourself to a Cafe cake and a stroll in the park like a soveriegn Queen!

Maybe??

It's Saturday afterall.

What can lift your spirits?

Hey - I'm still in my pyjamas you know. I've already been out for my Cafe jaunt. 😊

pokey cheers me up. Somedays it's all we can do, @Glisten : paint over the cracks with whatever will stick for a smile...

https://youtu.be/oiNs4sxCUeA?si=nWsOquzf18VuMq0q

@tonys You are so correct. I have time. I need to compartmentalise this and schedule my days.

I need to Project Manage - Me.

The Hyper-vigilante that came to stay in my head.

Narcissists are so skilled at reflecting the person that they are Love-bombing. You think you’re with someone you have all this stuff in common with.

I logically know ‘B🐜’ is doing the same thing to Sharon.

What I had with him wasn’t real.

I swing from thinking I’m hideous, no one wants me, to the relief that I’m not a narcissist or a serial monogamist.

Weird … it’s going take time to process.

@Kyle1 BIG HUGS 🫂 PJ Bro

You are so correct. I am sounded by amazing bush land at the end of the street.

Like I said to @tonys, I think the only way I can get through this is to Project Manage - Me. Literally get the flip chart out, Wall Calendar and Daily schedule. ➡️ Daily, Weekly, Monthly Goals. All the tactics I used at work. @tonys How did you know, how did you read me so well?

@Kyle1 Question: If you have sort Support Workers for this type of paperwork and haven’t found one. Could it be the liability?

It is such a hideous thing to go through, at I’m tempted to do a Research Post Grad in something, to get an MA of some sort, in an attempt to fill this Support gap.

Hey @Glisten ,

It sounds so terribly difficult for you at the moment. Please know we are here to listen.

Please take care.