Far and Away

Hi @Zoe7 ....

Love hearing about your day.

I am going to buy an icecream witn D2, then settle in to our hotel for the night.

Back soon.

Okay, I'm back ..... @Zoe7

Hi @Sans911 👋

Hey @Faith-and-Hope ...good timing - just finished the first lot of bookmarks. Will laminate and cut the second lot tomorrow - too tired to do it tonight.

Tobes has been playing with my feet again and rolling around on the floor. He then snuggled on my lap for a while which did not make it easy to cut out the bookmarks : He's sound asleep now on the back of the couch 👍

Is it just you and D2 staying together or is D3 there too?

And @Adge .....

The ice cream was an excuse to go for a walk, because I was reeling ....

D2 has been trying to tell me something since I picked her up from WH this evening. The pieces finally slotted together .... and the knocks just keep coming .....

What she is saying is really going to devastate our kids. After spending years working on her language production, it's inconceivable to now try to tell her not to speak out about what she is doing with her day, telling her news. And she shouldn't be asked to keep secrets anyway.

I can't spell it out here, because our kids need to hear about it first .....and I can't be the one to tell them. I can't be the one to keep unpacking their dad's :pile_of_poo: and delivering the blows on his behalf ..... (which also fits with the not-diagnosis 😣, setting things up so other people are doing your dirty-work). I am going to have to wait until this makes its own way forward, but it will blow the whole charade he has presented as truth right out of the water when it does, because it doesn't figure. At. All. It shows up that everything else is a lie.

No wonder WH was feeling so unwell the weekend he left. This is not something that can be sustained. It's gonna blow ...... he must know that .....

It's just D2 and me @Zoe7 . D3 is not well.

She is still really struggling then Hon - so hard for you and her @Faith-and-Hope Is she going to be able to go back to uni or is that not even on the agenda right now?

It's going to have to be something that gets worked out between her and her new psych @Zoe7. All of this is moving beyond me now. I could only hold it together until WH left. The re-grouping in the wake of that is going to take everybody to put back together, because as above ^^^ it hasn't even finished being unpacked yet. We are trying to rebuild on quicksand at the moment.

Tonight's news is a shocker, and nobody is in shape to hear it ..... but it's reveal is not something I can control. If it doesn't come out by D2, there are other ways it might happen.

Sorry Hon - just saw your previous post I am figuring here that the lies he has been telling about his 'bit' are far more escalated than he has been portraying to the kids. I am sure there is much more involved but of course you can only reveal what you can for now until it comes out on its own with the kids. I actually do not know what to say to you - and yes I know that is unusual - but all I am feeling is hurt and anger for you. There are just some people in this world that do not deserve a second thought and if you could be free of Him then I am sure that is where you would sit also. You have lived your life for your family and He ripped that apart with his lies and deceict ...and of course you are left to pick up all the pieces when you too are hurting so much. ...but you have us here to rest upon as much as you need. Love you sweetheart and wish I could do more for you right now @Faith-and-Hope 💜💙🧡💚💛

This is all going to bear it's own consequences @Zoe7, and those consequences might just free us from him ..... the same way his discard slammed the door shut on any empathy I had left for him, this one might do the same for others in our vacinity.

In a way I am glad that it has come to this so soon so it can free you all from him - it is not nice but he certainly is showing his true colours and maybe once the dust has settled you can all get on with living a life without him ...you (and the kids) deserve that - you all deserve to be free from the lies and free from the control and to have a life with joy brought back into it. As you know I am not at all religious but I am going to light a candle for you all tonight @Faith-and-Hope