Far and Away

Yeah @Zoe7, two markers of the condition I believe it to be are lack of empathy and lack of remorse. There are others, including addiction. They almost always suffer from addictions. There are three boxes ticked right there.

This condition is often mistaken for another one, because some of the reliance on order and control are similar, but that one is not vindictive and nasty like this one is. They are not the same at all, but before the mask was dropped, nobody could see that ..... now they can, and it’s stunned everyone, including his own family. What does that tell you ??!

Yes @Teej, so caught up in my own stuff that I forgot to tell you just how proud I am of you for making your way through all that, especially with respect and dignity. So pleased for you and proud of you ❣️

And I’m sorry too that respite wasn’t as much as you expected, but I hope it did achieve a little more wind beneath your wings.

PS .... jigsaw puzzles have been featuring big in my life ..... surprise, surprise .... not.

I am glad his family is seeing the real him @Faith-and-Hope For too long you have been blamed for so much and now it must becoming obcious that the issues are with him. He has hidden it so well for so long so to have it all come to the surface and for others to finally see what he is really like is something he will have to deal with - he can't hide it all now ...which is good for you.

I am actually starting to get tired now @Faith-and-Hope so I will have to head off soon - so if I drop out that will be why Hon.

That’s fine @Zoe7 .... I am pleased you are 😊

Seeing these “changes” in him are not enough for them to stand against him though @Zoe7 .... it’s a lot like your sister with her partner .... upsetting and shocking, but they can’t leave, because they are held in place by the initial enchantment they present you with .... you keep thinking that’s the real one ....

I am settling in here as well. One day things will be better than this.

Goodnight @Zoe7 ..... 🦋💕💤

No doubt He is showing that charming, caring side with this new woman @Faith-and-Hope but for him to drag in D2 and then be so vicous with you should be red flags for anyone. Who knows what lies and unthruths he is telling her and also what she is choosing to ignore in what she too sees - unfortunately we can often be blinkered from reality when a high level of feelings and emotions are involved. ...but it says a lot about her that she is seeing how you are being treated and ignoring (maybe even encouraging) his behaviour. His true colours are shining through though and those closest to you are seeing it - so he cannot 'hide' under the guise he has created for himself much longer. Truth is a powerful thing - and you have that on your side

I did get some sleep eventually then had another couple of hours after I fed the fur babies ...so about 6 hours all up. I have also changed my pdoc appointment - could only get one in 4 weeks but that is okay because I will be able to afford it by then. I will be okay until then ...might even be good to settle into work a bit more and see how things are panning out. I still have my GP and can call my psych if need be but for now I am okay getting through on my own. There is nothing anyone can do anyway - just need to do what I need to do this week and get as ready as I can for next week.

I am tired today but going to get ready and head into work for a little while. Even if it is just to see what needs to be done and then go in tomorrow to get organised. I think I will feel much better once I know what I need to do. I will let you know how it goes today when I get home (hopefully not too late). I hope you have some light in your day today Hon - very much thinking about you (and will carry you with me to work). I know there is a space above the desk in my office that I am going to put up smaller versions of the paintings you did so I will have a little of you with me every day. Take care today - will catch you later. Many hugs and lots of love coming your way 💛🧡💚💙💜

Hi @Bimby2 Much love and good wishes coming your way too Hon

👋💕 Thank you @Bimby2. It’s always good to see you, and I wish you well too. What are you up to today ?

Mornjng @Zoe7 🦋💕

I have woken up feeling headache and unwell, but it’s detox symptoms here again, so while it’s bad it’s also good.

I have someone coming to work in my car shortly, so I have to get up and dressed to give him access to it, but I will need to rest up for the rest of the morning, whenI hope the worst if it will pass .... but it is still an intense headache at this stage.

Thank you for what you said above. I respect and appreciate that people can drift apart in their relationships and need to move on when things are not working .... but this is very different .... this has involved covert abuse that I had assigned to the eating disordered behaviour ..... but now it has become overt abuse, and his “bit” (👍 @Teej) has become a complicit implement in that .... openly engaging in it. This should all be bl%dy big red flags for her, but she obviously thinks it will never happen back to her.

As @Teej said, there is no need for disrespect and abuse in something that is already difficult, and involves vulnerable others.