Far and Away

Perhaps you could encourage her to seek the support of a counsellor @Zoe7 ? I started seeing one when I knew I had to find some clarity in all the confusion of my situation, and now I am learning that creating chaos and confusion is a deliberately engineered device in this sort of instance. There are other clear markers - clear in hindsight that is - that are pointing to this as a truth, but sometimes it takes someone sitting down with you and helping you to map out what is going on ..... give you the clues as to what is happening before you can join the dots, because it involves a masking, a complete deception. The mask drops occasionally, and in those moments you can see an abuser, but then the charm emerges again, and you get talked into believing that you were misinterpreting what you saw ..... or there was strain and tiredness involved, of you get played off against another person (referred to as triangulation).

Of course we can’t presume to know the fullness of someone else’s situation, but professionals can help guide us and support us through decisions around what is best for us, and how to instigate change. I also wanted a reading on my own mental health, in case I was suffering from anxiety or depression without recognising the symptoms in myself. That’s when situational anxiety and depression were explained to me, and the importance of self care to help manage the stress while working towards solutions to the underlying issues.

It is not something I would even try to suggest to her because I know what her reaction would be. The last time I tried to suggest that she get the police involved when he was threatening she shouted at me and said she didn't need to be told what to do. I shut my mouth and copped the abuse from her because she was highly emotional at the time but it was still uncalled for.

She doesn't want to listen to me - never has - her opinion is always the one that is right. I don't talk to her about anything - can't - she shuts me down really quickly - so even the suggestion of seeing someone would fall on deaf ears.

Yes I am @MDT Yesterday was the best day of the year

So good to finally have most of it done buddy - been going at it for weeks and having it all sorted finally is a relief.

I don't celebrate the day @MDT

Goodnight buddy

That is quite okay @MDT No drama or need to be sorry at all.

Goodnight to you - hope you sleep well

Goodnight from me too @MDT 👋 💤 ... and I am glad to be back .... glad and sad, but that’s the way of things at the moment. Sleep well.

Oh wow @Zoe7. I didn’t know that about your sister. It explains a lot though.