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Far and Away

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Nov 2016, 8:10 pm AEDT

Far and Away

Hi @Former-Member .... 😊

You wrote:

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, how's your adventure going? Is there a particular thread your putting updates? Jetlag takes about a week to settle I'm told, and I'm sure there's son Celtic wisdom to get over your post viral fatigue How's WH coping with his obcessive routines while travelling? A challenge I would think 😕 Hope this is a time yo rekindle some first love maybe.
Any good churches to visit there? Did you go this morning? Love ancient architecture and history. Churches are great for it. Hugz xox

Hadn't thought to start a new thread ....

In transit again today and have to go again now .... found a brief moment with wifi .... will catch you later and answer the above.

Hi to everyone else .... 👋🏽💗💕

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Sans911Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 10:38 am AEST

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Is this an ongoing communication from someone here @Zoe7 or someone else in your real life?

Here in the forums I will not frown upon you if you speak up. Your opinion, thoughts, feelings matter a great deal.

I understand what you say here is often restrained and controlled to a point, but you can still speak your mind.

I can hear how much pain you are in, and how much your mood is being affected. I wish I could take away that pain for you.

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ethSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 10:39 am AEST

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s @Zoe7 Sitting with you and holding your hand. Sending much love xx

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 10:46 am AEST

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Oh no @Zoe7 ..... 😕😔

Is there an ongoing communication, like @Sans911 has said ? Or was it what I said in my post ?

Something I have learned with my in-law family is that with some people, speaking up has its limits. Instead of hearing you they can become more and more hurtful and it increases the damage. And there is no changing the person or people themselves ..... you sort of have to work your way around them like a road block. That was what I was referring to. You have definitely been heard, and I fully support what you have said, and how you are feeling about it.

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Unknown userMember01 June 2019, 11:08 am AEST

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Ohhhhh @Zoe7 ... It saddens me greatly to hear that. I completely understand your need to have a voice. To be heard and to have our thoughts and feelings validated is so important. When we feel we are being silenced or prevented from saying what we need to ... it feels like further betrayal to add to those we have already endured in our lives. To have a voice is a release we all need, and I am sorry you dont feel you have that here. Are you quite sure you cannot find a way through this Zoe? Is there no way you can come back from all this ?

I implore you to make absolutely certain that you have all the off line support you need to ensure your safety. I know how much you have relied upon the forums, and the lovely members who ARE the forums, for a long time now. I just do not want to think of you leaving here and coping entirely on your own. I know you have your professional supports (GP, pdoc, etc), but I think we all need a little more than that for daily exchange such as we get here. Perhaps you could try other online forums, but its here that you have strong connections, and it takes time to develop that.

@Sans911 - I think you will find that we do not have quite the amount of freedom to express ourselves here as you seem to think. In all reality ... we are not permitted to speak our mind. Restrictions are in place for a reason, but sometimes they can be extremely limiting and takes our voice away from us. I too wish I could take away Zoe's pain. I feel it, I've been there, I understand ... it hurts, and it will for a long time.

Like @eth, I am sitting with you Zoe ... holding your hand an allowing you to cry, yell or shout. Whatever feels right for you right now. You need a release.

As @Faith-and-Hope so rightly said ... you have been heard, even if we sometimes need to try to read between the lines, fill in the gaps. We hear what you are trying to say, and support you all the way. Although you may not be able to say exactly what you want to here, you can tell us how you are feeling about it all. We are permitted to express our feelings, perhaps just not what caused those feelings. Perhaps you can try that?

Dont leave us Zoe ... please ... at least not while you are this low. I think it would be to your detriment.

Sherry 🤗🌸

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 11:35 am AEST

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You said it so well @Former-Member .

@Zoe7 ..... here and sitting with you. I know you feel a need to retreat, but please let us help you hold your ground. You means so much to us, but first and foremost it needs to be about your welfare.

I am sorry you are still feeling so hurt, with clearly more you would like to say.

As @Former-Member has suggested, there is the ability here to write about how you are feeling, about how awful it feels to be misjudged according to the truth of who you are, and how you know yourself to be.

You can say, and you have said, “Hey, I am not that person, and I am devastated that you thought I was .....” and even give an explanation of how you saw the situation misconstrued, which you have done too, with compassion and understanding, as is your way.

You have a group of forum friends doing a sit-in with you here ..... we believe in you @Zoe7 and would love to continue walking forward with you ....

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BlueBaySenior Contributor01 June 2019, 11:39 am AEST

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❤️❤️🦋❤️❤️ love you my friend @Zoe7

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Sans911Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 11:49 am AEST

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@Former-Member, I was probably saying about the same thing as you, but in a different way. I probably get more telling off than many as I often say what I think in certain threads. If we can word our posts in such a way, which you, @Faith-and-Hope and @Shaz51 are so good at, then we can almost express what needs to be said.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 12:05 pm AEST

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I hope I have not said anything to upset you @Zoe7

Thank you @Sans911 , but I find to hard also to write down what is in my brain and how to write it down on paper sometimes

hello @Faith-and-Hope , @BlueBay , @Former-Member , @eth

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 12:18 pm AEST

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And I definitely get my foot stuck in my mouth sometimes too .....

@Zoe7 @Shaz51 @Sans911 @BlueBay @Former-Member @eth

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ethSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 1:01 pm AEST

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@Zoe7 I've been through something similar on the forums a couple of times in the past. It jolted me and I stepped back from the forums for a while. Then I realized that there is a lot more positive on the forums than those small minority of ....... can't find the right word there. So these days if certain people show up I disappear from that thread. I also shoot through when certain triggering topics for me come up. It strains my connection with people who retain connection with those people too, so sometimes those connections become more distanced. But overall I still feel a real benefit from being on the forums, just have to have some boundaries about it, as with everything else in this life of monitoring and managing MH issues. The friends I have here far and away outweigh and out number the ppl I (edited : remove myself) from. And the support given and received far and away outweighs any criticism.

So I hope it doesn't seem I'm preaching, just gently encouraging from my personal experience.

You have so much love here and are so valued by such a supportive group. We might be anonymous but we are still real people who care very much. We will all be here for you whenever and however you want/need us to be.

More love, Eth xxx

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