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Far and Away

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Nov 2016, 8:10 pm AEDT

Far and Away

Hi @Former-Member .... 😊

You wrote:

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, how's your adventure going? Is there a particular thread your putting updates? Jetlag takes about a week to settle I'm told, and I'm sure there's son Celtic wisdom to get over your post viral fatigue How's WH coping with his obcessive routines while travelling? A challenge I would think 😕 Hope this is a time yo rekindle some first love maybe.
Any good churches to visit there? Did you go this morning? Love ancient architecture and history. Churches are great for it. Hugz xox

Hadn't thought to start a new thread ....

In transit again today and have to go again now .... found a brief moment with wifi .... will catch you later and answer the above.

Hi to everyone else .... 👋🏽💗💕

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Unknown userMember03 Jan 2017, 2:27 am AEDT

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Thanks @Former-Member xox

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 3:07 am AEDT

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@Former-Member .... WH got a bit carried away with the travel plans this time .... was booking in a few other place for the new year .... was wondering at which point it was gonna be okay to voice my reservations, but I think someone else quizzed him about the wisdom of it, and he took most of the intended new year destinations back out .... thank God .... cos when you include popping a couple of hours down the road to visit relies in one place and stay for a few days .... then take off for a couple of hours down another road sight-seeing and stay for a few days, then adding in trains and / or planes and / or buses to other countries stats to feel like staying on a show ride too long ..... that's where the kids are at even now ....

All part of his driven mind-set at the moment. He was agitated, sarcastic and narky today, then it would switch off and he seemed to have no real understanding that that was how he was behaving, and goes .... "what's wrong with you !!"

Lol .... all part of my circus .....

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 3:49 am AEDT

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Returning home mid-Feb @Former-Member. Hope you're feeling better soon, and I am so glad you are enjoying working at the zoo.

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TABSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 4:02 am AEDT

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Bit likemy father over xmas re wh .. he always did live in a bubble, but was tempered by mother when they lived together. Now his actions are amplified by age etc and fed by others who play up to it almost. He put on this big thing telling anyone who would listen how good and smart my mother and her family were. Funny. He held them in contempt mostly. Just trying to re write history before he goes.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 8:29 am AEDT

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Hi @TAB .... sorry it has taken me a whike to get back and respond to this ....

You have said your dad suffers PTSDfrom war service .... there is war damage in WH's parents generation across the family, and you can see the fall-out in our generation, and even in some of our kid's generation within the family. It's sad, but I guess the challenge is to provide our kids with grounded teaching and emotional processing skills to try to filter out the damage progressively.

There's lot of really strong values there too though ... they're not afraid of hard work, and are passionate and very emotionally expressive about some things .... bit of a crazy mix..

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TABSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 9:23 am AEDT

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that's fine @Faith-and-Hope er dunno guess having same nightmares for 40 years is PTSD.. sister and her hubby have received last versions of war stories and they do sound coherent and more in depth than older versions, I must have been getting the Readers Digest condensed version, well that was 20 plus years ago

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Shaz51Senior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 1:22 pm AEDT

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Hello @PeppiPatty,hope it is a bit cooler for your weeding next week xx

Hello @Faith-and-Hope,it would be lovely if more towns had flowere everywhere

Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member xx

Thank you @Former-Member, seems like the magnesium is working , been drinking more water, my leg went numb last night

having a hicup with hubby this week

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 4:47 pm AEDT

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Getting a bit "fuzzed out" with age, is he ?

It helped me with my MIL to understand her back-story ..... experienced war and loss of family members including father, favourite uncle, grandmother died of "broken heart syndrome", lost two siblings in their infancy to childhood illness, left destitute after the war, her mother favouring the boys .... girls were non-entity slaves to the household .... very embittering life situation ....

My compassion was to the fore until I realised her coping mechanism was to control, and spite others' successes .... so had to come to terms with prioritising my own self-compassion and blocking her influence .... so arose my very deliberate "social mask" ..... being polite, but nothing more, and very politely excusing myself at every opportunity to decline offers, leave the venue, not wear or use spiteful or inappropriate gifts, etc .....

The only way for anyone else to exist with my armour was to remain polite too .... which created a new order of things. I let behind my armour people who respected and appreciated me. All others were blocked, firmly and politely. It showed me that I didn't have to be reactive to their cr#p .... just step over or around it and move on on my own terms.

Y'doin' it @TAB .... 😄 .... high five 🖐🏼❣

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TABSenior Contributor03 Jan 2017, 4:53 pm AEDT