Far and Away

I knew you were dealing with your own stuff @CheerBear and that you are in a tough position right now. I also knew you had read it and that was enough Hon

Things are still going okay - we still have daily communication. I am being really honest with him about where I am sitting with all this and he is too so it is easy to communicate. He doesn't know if he will even be in the state in a couple of months time - it all depends on if he sells his house - but that is okay because as much as I enjoy his company friendship is all I am after right now - it is a huge thing though that I am even contempleting that. He is really easy to talk to and I like that a lot - something new for me too. He does seem to be one of the good guys and that is nice considering my history. He did offer to come and help with the wall but I told him to get his painting done first so he can get his house on the market. He is having photos taken this week so he really needs to get the painting done. When that is all done he can come around to my place then. It really is just see how it goes but all indications so far is that it is easy and comfortable and there are no expectations at all between us - I like that as we can get to know each other without there being any awkwardness. Who knows what the future holds but it is nice being able to share some of it with someone.

He has also struggled with depression in the past so he knows what it is like and I think that actually makes it easier. I am definitely glad we met and hoping there are more times we can get together soon.

I would love to meet up again soon @CheerBear I really enjoyed his company and he has said the same - so that is a big tock too. The conversation flowed very easily and I could have stayed longer but needed to come home to feed my babies. There will certainly be more time when he has finished his painting and I have finished the garage - his is a bit more pressing than mine with wanting to put his house on the market as soon as possible. He then wants to travel a bit so there are many things up in the air for him atm. I agree that he needs to do that whilst he has the opportunity to do so - but that all depends on him selling his house and getting a good price for it. Knowing the market as it is he should get a reasonable price and he doesn't have many ties here so he could go quite quickly. We can definitely stay in touch though - we will see what happens but it is nice getting to know him right now.

More meet up time would be nice @CheerBear You wouldn't believe it but after our 'what would I wear' discussion with you I went in my tracksuit and t-shirt - didn't bother to get changed - it was a pretty rushed meeting so I went as I was lol

lol @CheerBear There is really nowhere else to go once they have seen you in your jammies Your friend must have seen what we do in you though - such a kind, warm hearted person who deserves only the very best in life

My friend has already determined that I have been very hurt without me having to say too much at all so that is a bonus. He has been also in relationships and is very open to say that. It does make for an easy flow of conversation when you are open with each other - and he makes it okay to be that way. I still find myself thinking of him during the day so that is nice and he has said he does the same - he actually said it before I did.

I think you are right that having those couple of weeks to get to know each where you were certainly alleviates those often difficult questions about our MH. My friend openly asked questions when we began talking abouot both mine and his depression and I found it really easy to say how it all began with the illness and then past trauma coming into it - without actually talking about the trauma - that part I can't even do with any of my treating team. He does seem to be the kind of person who would be very empathetic if he knew but that is definitely not somewhere I am prepared to go with anyone - too hard! @CheerBear

How do you go with your friend with those tricky issues?