Far and Away

Hello @Shaz51

As you are probably aware, my Mum was with me for her last ten years, of which the last three were in Residential Care, about 750 metres from home - so "another room in the house". (Hope people don't get sick of reading the same story).

Mum and I had a really good run for both of us, but physical limitations and liabilities in terms of the potential for accidents were becoming a higher potential issue and risk. At one stage, Mum actually fractured her upper leg bone by twisting to turn off a lamp.

For most of the time, Mum was lucid and even remembered visiting children's names till quite near her time of passing. There were a few 'aberrations', in terms of thinking and perception, that seemed to be quite spaced out in terms of occurrence and really did not seem to be connected with each other, as might be expected in a gradual decline of mental faculty.

Those occurrences seemed to me to have been more a selective venturing of the mind to another place, almost as a reverie, rather than an unconscious slippage of faculty.

As a consequence of my own experience and, while I am aware that I know virtually nothing of the circumstances existing for you, I would not be too concerned about occasional distractions.

However, I can certainly understand your distress at seeing someone so close experiencing what must have presented as a distressing event. I very much hope that the experience will not be repeated. Hopefully, it was just a matter of co-incidental factors coming together that caused an unpleasant sensation. We all have those at some time or another. For older people such events may seem to be somewhat more threatening.

With my hope that the experience will not re-occur. Also, it is worth remaining aware that the least amount of distress and anxiety we show or express, the less will flow over to and reinforce unpleasant sensations or reactions for your Mum.

With My Very Best Wishes

@HenryX

it was just a matter of co-incidental factors coming together that caused an unpleasant sensation. --- love this comment , thank you for your message my @HenryX

yes my mum has broken her hip a few years ago and she has reoccuring bowel obstructions as well

yes to remain calm and to see what happens is what i need to do , sometimes seems hard to do

@Former-Member, @Zoe7 , @Emelia8 , @Faith-and-Hope

You're allowed to have all of your feelings, no matter how big or small they are @Shaz51. It's hard not to assume the worst. Yes, do try your best to stay in the present with it. Hopefully the GP can give you some guidance. You've got this!

Rest up and take care of that headache tonight.

Much care,

Sphinxly.

thank you my @Former-Member

had a shower , done the dishes , helped mum with her shower and her dinner , mum is relaxing in front of tv

I am now sitting in bed trying not to let my brain run away with me and trying to be calm for my mr shaz xx

❤️ @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @Emelia8 @HenryX ..... 👋 @Former-Member

@Faith-and-Hope Hi Hon About 120 reports to go so going to do a few more as I am still awake and tackle the rest tomorrow. How has your day been?

@Shaz51 Thinking of you my sister

Hope your mum will be okay- different infections and medication can affect the elderly

And also vitamin deficiencies too

My dad was deldelirious when he was recently in hospital after his heart attack- and that was because high temp from infection (lung and bladder) and sedatives (from being on life support).

It is never easy to make that decision @Emelia8 I thought the same with Cat but when it was time I knew - I could not let her suffer It was made a little easier at the time as my vet was working on the day and her usual vet nurse came in to be with us. Those small things were really big for me. I do have my other fur babies though - and that is a massive difference to your situation - so I can absolutely hear how horrible this is for you Hon Are you able to ask your brother to come for a few days? You have been such a massive support for him, maybe he would like to do the same for you now

Good morning @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope @oceangirl @Shaz51 and anyone else aorund.

Hoping your day goes well for you

Lots of love 💗💗💗

Topsy-turvy day today @Zoe7 . I went out for a coffee hike to distract myself. It was the last day for a friend exhibiting in a gallery, so I caught her show.

Then I went to Bunnings ..... (say no more ?)

After that I got stuck into some handwork at home, which I am really pleased with. That was effective for a while ......

Yesterday ^^^^

I was going to say "I'm feeling exhausted" but I fell asleep in the middle of waiting this last night .