Far and Away

I know it is important for you to be back at work tomorrow, no doubt you have a lot of things piling up. But your health and well being is even more important. I hope by being home today helps you feel better so whether to go tomorrow is an easier decision for you @Zoe7

It would be a relief for your Mum and also a relief for you family.

Fell asleep again @Snowie 😴 Need to try to stay awake now though, get to my pdoc appointment and then home to rest further. I have to go tomorrow as the kids have put so much work into their art for this competition. There are only about 10 to enter but I need permission for all of them so it is imperative I get the forms out tomorrow so I can drop everything off on Friday afternoon (before the deadline). I had planned on getting the forms out yesterday so I had plenty of time Going to try to get in early tomorrow to get it all organised.

You must have needed the sleep then @Zoe7

I hope you feel better tomorrow if you have to go into work. I hope the kids appreciate everything you do for them.

Hey @Zoe7 I'm glad your mum has been moved to a ward. Daily improvement which is great. Not great that you're feeling a bit off. It's so easy to catch bugs from kids.
Glad you got some much needed sleep and rest.
tske care @Zoe7 xxxx

Hi @Zoe7

I am glad you feel well enough to go to school tomorrow - and kids' bugs are so virulent - I really understand - when my children were young I caught everything they had - except Rubella - I have never had Rubella - that I know of - of course I didn't catch measles or chicken pox either but everything else.

Amazing that - I hope you really are recovering - and it is good to that your mother seems to be recovering - it must have been a scary time for her. Is she able to speak yet - or is she still having to write everything?

All of this must be so scary for her - for all of you really

I only learned last night that Cat had died - I am so sorry - I know she was so important to you. It was good that we were able to bring up the loss of pets in that discussion. I still miss my old cat - it was a hard loss - and I honour all my cats and birds that I loved so much. They fill an important part of our lives. I believe they really enhance our spirits. I was everything to my cat - she became passive-aggressive when I got my suitcase out and started sorting my clothes the last couple of times I went away before she died - she must have missed me terribly -

My mother didn't want us to have pets for a long time during our childhood because they have to die. I think this was a mistake - it is an important life-lesson for children to love pets, care for them and grieve for them when they pass. I was taking time out from the forum when Cat passed and I am sorry I missed it. I am sending my love about it now

You really have had your plate full for a long time now. I care about that

And last night's discussion was so enlightening. I thought I might be a bit triggered after that - in fact the truth was the case - I fell asleep for a long time watching TV - I woke up late - did my evening chores and then slept for 8 hours. I am glad you have been able to sleep while you have had to have time off from school - I also hope that you were able to recover from anything that was brought up by the discussion. You are an incredibly supportive person yourself - at great cost to yourself at time

I am here for you - when I am in the forum of course - I give a lot here too and need time out - I understand this is necessary

My love and best thoughts always Zoe

Dec

Thanks @BlueBay

@Faith-and-Hope @Snowie @Eve7 @Anastasia @Owlunar @Sans911 @Adge

Had a really good session with my pdoc. She said I did look very tired but under that she is happy with how I am going and dealing with everything. There was a lot to fill her in on - and we chatted about a couple of things in detail ...which really helped. I then went to see Mum - kept my distance but could do that now she is in a ward. It is still acute care but she has more independence - can walk aided to the bathroom herself 👍 She is not likely to be out for a while but everything is moving along in a positive direction so far. I will likely take some time off when she is home to help out because I cannot continue to do the evenings and weekends (as well as work) for much longer. An early night for me tonight so I can hopefully be up early to get into work and get the things sorted I need to. Hugs to everyone

Glad you had a good session with your pdoc hon @Zoe7

So happy to hear your mum is doing a little better each day.

Take care of you hon. Won't be out of bed long myself either.

This is really good news @Zoe7

It will be easier now your Mother is in a ward and has more independence. Of course she is still not well and it will take time to recover - it's a step in the right direction

It's also a good idea to take time off work to help her out when she gets home. It's a lot for you working and being with your mother is hospital too and caring for other people. It will be much easier and this is a really sound decision

I'm cooking dinner - I'll catch up later

Dec

Thank you for your post @Owlunar and for the care you have shown (always do )

Losing Cat was a massive thing - she came to me when I needed her and was very special to me. I miss her every day but could not see her in pain anymore ...and at the end she was in pain

Mum said again tonight she thought last week she was not going to get better - I knew that already - but I reassured her she is getting better and will be up and about in no time. I never had any doubt that she would fight through (even if she did) but it has been a scary time for us all.

Last night's discussion was a little triggering but it was also a very supportive and compassionate space and that made it a more comfortable discussion to be part of ...you had a lot to do with that so I very much thank you Dec I am pleased you gave yourself some time to deal with it all afterwards - I took a break for myself also, cuddled my fur babies and went outside (briefly) to visit Cat. There were a few tears but in amongst them were some happy tears remembering my little girl for the love she gave me. Toby and Clover joined me so it was a family outing lol

Thank you again for last night and for being you - it is always appreciated

Thanks @Snowie I am however worried about you tonight so am here for a while if you need a distraction Hon