Far and Away

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

As hard as things are for you I am really glad that you are living by your own chug-chuga-chug timetable - and not constantly at things like WH - and even fitting his washing in with the family wash

Feeling time poor must be pure anguish - living with someone like that is a whole other thing

But goodonyer Faith - it seems the medical issues are rising to the top - I am thinking of you - often pray and wish you the best in this difficult situation

Dec

Thanks so much @Owlunar 💕 ..... it makes so much difference knowing that you all know and can empathise with me in a way that I can't across the board irl at the moment. It has wounded my integrity to be "living a lie" .... but it's WH's lack of insight that has made it so .... having to choose between "not okay" and "not okay" ..... such as it is.

@Zoe7 .... looks like I forgot to tag you into my last response ....

It really is no wonder you are feeling tired sweetheart

I love the train metaphor - actually gave me a little giggle Not only are you not on the same train - you are not even on the same tracks lol

I am seriously debating whether to have a jammies day or actually get dressed myself. I am nice and cosy and warm atm so I am thinking it may stay that way. I don't need to go anywhere or do anything (other than party planning hahaha) so maybe a jammies day is just what I need!

Definitely time for you to get up, get dressed, drive to the coffe shop, eat and relax - then back to the mayhem when you are ready...

...and breathe

Here with you Hon @Faith-and-Hope

I've checked in on the Daily Goals thread @Zoe7 😊

Jammies day sounds great for you ... and I think I'm gonna be cheeky and have a jammies-on-the-go day ... throw a scarf, cardio and boots on with my jammies cos they look enough like clothes and I don't wanna bother with getting dressed today.

Okey dokey - jammies twins today then @Faith-and-Hope

😆 .... @Zoe7 ❣️

I have copied your daily goals and pasting them here so I know where they are and can keep an eye on you LOL @Faith-and-Hope and how you are going today - I WILL become a serial pest hahahaha!!!!!!

Okay ... here we go ....

Up .... ✅

Bed made ....

Dressed ....

Washing on....

Some glasses buffed to get white spots off them and relocated to a new cupboard

Coffee

Breakfast

Massage

Shop for dinner stuff

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

We can only do what is physically possible and right now it is hard for you having to sort out what is "Okay" and what is "Not Okay"

I think if we look back at Parent-Adult-Child and Transactional Analysis - you and the rest of the world can see that WH is "Not Okay: - but he can't see that and shis mother is enabling - not good

But as for your living a lie - I don't see that - you have WH as a priority and that is right - you have chosen this for his sake as hard as it is for everyone - and if you didn't - how would you feel

I think that would be "Not-okay"

I was going to join the jammie-triplets but I have one hell of a noise going on outside and is deafening me - I think it's road-works but it sounds as if it's happening closer than that - I am going to have to get dressed and go outside and look - sticky-beak me - but if this lasts I am going out!!!!!

Dec

Hi @Owlunar - jammie triplets today hahaha