Far and Away

Hi @Former-Member ...... 💖💐💞

It takes a very long time, in my experience, whether you hack a great relationship with her or an awful one ...... both ways I think it takes a long time to process, so it's a marathon rather than a sprint, and you can only take it a little bit at a time. The heart takes its own time to heal from loss, and it is a painful journey.

Doing things to express your feelings, even if you don't feel any desire to, can help I think -

Putting a special photo of her somewhere special, like a dining table, mantelpiece, or we of the kitchen bench, and placing a posy of flowers in a water glass next to it, and lighting a candle maybe ?

Putting together a box or shelf of special things she gave you, like a Coping Box can help.

Cry as much as you need to.

take walks on the beach, which I think you already do.

Play music.

Visit a church or some other special place like a garden, and sit for a while.

Plant a special rose bush or other flower that was special to her, or you, or both of you.

Buy or pick some flowers for a vase on the date of her passing every month for the next year.

I hope this helps ......

Hugs n hugs n hugs n hugs Hon.

Thanks Hon - shower done so need to get dinner organised then back to work. Hope you get a chance to talk to H tonight @Snowie

I don't know what to do @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope @Snowie So messed up. Was just coping with d's situation and everything. Now I really don't know what to do. I really don't know why things don't calm down. It's all too hard

Big hugs @Former-Member I want to wrap my arms around you and hold you close.

You don’t have to go to the funeral and you definitely aren’t a bad person for thinking you don’t want to go.

This will be your decision to make and only yours but if you think you’ll regret it if you don’t attend... that is something to consider.

Do you have a friend who will support you now? Please don’t be alone.

Big love

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@Zoe7 spoke to H for a bit. Told him about pdoc and what he suggested. H seemed ok with it.

@Former-Member how about you just concentrate on getting through the night. Don't worry about all the other stuff, it will still be there tomorrow. What can you do tonight hun to make things a little better. Perhaps some self care hun.

We are here for you 💜

That is good news @Snowie 👍

No, no one to support me with funeral @Eve7 Family are so hard to deal with. It would set me back, that's for sure, but I feel so guilty. Thanks for being there and thanks @Snowie

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I would come with you @Former-Member but for now I’m sitting with you. Would you like a cuppa?

All you have to do now is stay safe. No decisions need to be made just yet.

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@Former-Member ..... you can go to the funeral home and sit by your mother there. You can ask a minister (there might be one associated with the fu real home, or chapel, or wherever it is for you) and have a prayer read for you and / or her....

You can go after the funeral is over and pay your respects to your Mum in private.

Some places record the service, especially with Covid circumstances.

You have choices Hon, as @Snowie @Zoe7 @Eve7 @@@are all saying too, and as they are saying, those choices don't have to be made tonight. It is important to look after you, now, around the funeral, and in the weeks ahead...... what can you do to self-care tonight, even if it's just going through the motions ?

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That would be so good if you could come with me to the funeral @Eve7 @Faith-and-Hope 🥲💖