Far and Away

Thanks for letting us know @Former-Member ...... I will head over to Fragile thread.

💖 @Anastasia ..... surviving everything one step my a time mostly ..... but thank you 🙏

Missing you @Zoe7 🦋🌷

🌺 @Shaz51

@Faith-and-Hope

@Faith-and-Hope hoping today goes a bit better for you 💕💕

Thank you @Zoe7 @Snowie ..... 💖💜💚

I can't believe it's a year tomorrow since he left, and still no financial separation ...... but divorce papers are still a step towards my freedom.

I sent myself a gift cos I don't have anyone I can celebrate with irl ..... but I do have you ❣️❣️❣️

@Faith-and-Hope 💝⭐🌷

Emelia 🌸🍀

Thanks @Emelia8 🙏

It hasn't surfaced yet how long he has been involved with her. I am wondering whether it has been the whole time I have been walking along with my forum friends, thinking for those first three years that I was supporting him ..... the truth will eventually show itself.

Meanwhile I am trying to make some plans ..... where I might like to go, things I might like to do ...... visiting Tassie is one of them.

Its good to see you making plans for post-Ws2bxH @Faith-and-Hope .

As for how long this has been going on with 'her' ... does it really matter any more? I think not, because what you need to focus on now is making a better life for yourself from now on. Which it sounds like you are attempting to do .. kudos to you for that. Everyone can now see WH for what he is, and will have lost all respect for him and what he portrayed to be the truth in the past. Unfortunately, as hard as it is, there is no undoing the past hurts. Uncovering more 'dirt' on him, will not achieve any additional happiness for anyone ... least of all you. It may enable you to tick a few more boxes, but now that he is out of your life as much as is possible (with kids etc) there really is nothing to be gained from it. It may sound a little harsh ... and this is only my opinion ... but trying to score points is counter productive. I think you are doing incredibly well, under the terribly difficult circumstances. I want to see you happy and thriving in your new independent and free world ... which will surely soon come.

Emelia 🌸😊💕

Thank you @Emelia8 ..... I really appreciate that.

The thing is, he has told our family and friends, which includes our kids, that he only became involved with her after leaving me ..... which is completely not true ..... and it matters what my kids think, and how "fair" they try to be towards him under the false pretentions he has continued to uphold.

If it is clear tha the has been involved with her for a length of time, it not only shows up that the relationship is not one he was "entitled to" in the "breakdown" of our marriage - it will show clearly that the "breakdown" was a sabotage of our relationship with her in the wings, and the extent of the lies and betrayal.

His whole Family Law case is built around the same pretention, and I really need that to come crumbling down to be able to achieve a proper detach from him ...... otherwise there are areas of our lives still pertaining to our children that remain weaponised ..... if that makes sense ?

I need the extent to which he still has me, legally and relationship-wise, in a position where he can continue coercively abusing me, to be recognised and disabled. Uncovering how long he has been involved with her is the key to getting his grubby reach further out of my life.

Yes, I see what you mean @Faith-and-Hope . 😔 I'm sorry, I was wrong. 💕

Emelia 🌸