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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Its interesting to read about your perfectionistic traits and the difficulties that brings @CheerBear . I get the feeling that so much of my stuff is about that. Lately I've heard lots 'it doesn't have to be perfect' from family and friends and even yesterday from my psych when I said I had a letter for her.
had a bit of a giggle at the karma now comment @CheerBear . I don't know how I'd go with it either. All the times I've done the same with helplines and knowing how they can be a bit make or break. I think you are doing amazing job holding it all together but also having the insight to see things from many angles.
I getting pretty tired again. Not much sleep last night. Thank you so much for the chat, I really appreciated it and am grateful 🙏💐 It helped to break though one of my stupid barriers. Chat again soon hopefully. 💜🤗
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Hi all,
So I've been away for a while and I was doing ok but then went in a downward spiral that started with my partner's promotion. So he gets paid like $100 more per fortnight and now according to centrelink we don't need a healthcare card. So now I can't even afford my preventer for my asthma let alone my head meds because we have to pay full price. So that hasn't helped then all this carona stuff has made dam near impossible to get any therapist. So I have given up after the 4th cancelled on a freaking phone appointment. One of my abusers is out of prison and being set up 2hrs away from me because he was in for parole violations and not what he did to me as I don't have enough proof to take to court. Then I found out that my mum is talking to another of my abusers.
I am mentally exhausted and crashing.
On a brighter note my Mr 8 got 4th in his tennis tournament yesterday
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@CheerBear I’ve been thinking about a lot today. I just wanted to let you know I care. I understand life gets busy. And inside my head I have thought after thought, that looks like it’s going to stay there.
It’s lots of squishy, mushy stuff, but simply put, Take good care of yourself, you are one in a million, don’t ever forget that. Sending 💜💜💜💜 hoping you feel them.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
How lovely to see you @CheerBear 😄🌷 I got very excited when your name came up on the craft thread when you supported my latest effort.
@Maggie has been very quiet the past month or more ... worried about her. @Maggie 🐶💞 I hope you are around this morning coz I know how much you miss @CheerBear .
So your life has stayed busy CB. Are you back home now, or still based at your parents? How are the kids? How is your Dad doing? And you of course! How are you?
Cuppa .. Yes please. Im recovering from surgery this week Gen anaesthetic knocked me around, and I need to keep up the fluids.
Sending love your way.
Emelia 😄🌺
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
Thanks for your update @CheerBear . It must be such a relief to all Victorians now that restrictions are/have lifted. I thought of you each time I heard of easing restrictions.
A massive congratulations to you on your increased work hours. To no longer be reliant on DSP is major progress. I am super impressed and proud of how much you have achieved.
Oh dear, I am devastated for you that your unwell person's condition has taken a turn for the worse. Chemo buddy is an important role to fill, but also a very draining one. I know from all the seemingly endless hours spent in cancer treatment clinics with my hubby. Actually he got a good report from his oncologist this week .. remains in remission.
Yes I had surgery on Tuesday. I was diagnosed with breast cancer about 5 weeks ago. Given my Mum died of breast cancer only last year, things are not exactly ideal. My surgery went well. Dreadfully sore, which is to be expected. And still suffering the effects from general anaesthetic. But just a bit better each day. Mostly though, am dreading the radiation treatment needed in coming months. I will need to travel for that, and its 5x a week for up to 7 weeks. 😔
Well .. enjoy the precious time you still have with unwell person. Ahh christmas carols .. I do love them. But also a reminder that Christmas is fast approaching. Yep .. definitely bonkers time of year.
Take care @CheerBear and at the risk of repeating myself ... So good to see you. 😄
@Maggie 🌷
Emelia 🌸
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MaggieSenior Contributor
Ohhhhh @CheerBear I don’t come online early anymore, there are very few, or non around. Soooooooooooooo good to see you. 💜💜💙💙💕💕💕
More work, more challenges, more chemo. Life always has the good and not good mix.
Crew singing carols sounds lovely. Bonkers time for sure.
I’m a bit stuck in a dark pit. Definitely dark night of the soul stuff. But I’ve found a few books that are challenging and comforting. So pleased there are people out there who can write this kind of stuff. Grateful I can read too.
Leaving a late coffee for the busy long day ahead. ☕️☕️☕️Always good to see you drop in, but never any pressure. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
@Emelia8 Sending some 💕💕💕💕💕
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@TheVorticon I’ve been thinking of you also. 🎮🎮🎮
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