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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Have you flagged your therapist that you are struggling this much to chew through the book @Teej ?
It sounds like maybe you needed smaller spoonfuls and the digest / assimilate info / reassess / heal before taking the next one, maybe ......
Can you take a break from the book ? Or read parts together with your therapist and discuss it and your reactions as you go ?
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TeejSenior Contributor
This one is with my psych @Faith-and-Hope and no she doesn’t know. I see her Wednesday but had wanted to finish it by then. I know why she made me read it but I think she’ll be surprised by my reaction to it.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Can you save finishing it till you have talked to her about it @Teej ? It might be wise to get a seat belt on, andcome to slow stop at the end of the book ?
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TeejSenior Contributor
Maybe but I feel like a big sook and wuss for my over reactions @Faith-and-Hope . I can think logically about it now until I read it again and all logic goes out the window. Thanks for your support. 💜🤗😘
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
You’re talking to another “sook” and “wuss” @Teej ...., “sensitive empath” is another name for it ..... you’re allowed to be a sensitive soul ❣️
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hugs @Teej
Hand Holds
You probably dont really need to finish it, If you have had this much reaction to it. You probably have enough to discuss and work on anyway. We cant apply too many changes at once to the whole way our personalities and being is structured.
I have often put things off like that for 6 months ... or when I am feeling up to it.
When things tip to SI ... I deal with it differently now. At one stage I had constant SI for over a decade, getting it down to manageable levels has only been relatively recent. For some reason I dont seem to need to Punish myself with Suicidal ideation thoughts any more ... tho ... always not cocky ... cos we really can be our own worst enemy.
The human personality and creature ... is adaptive ...to circumstances ... we grow in a particular shape because of what we experience.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@Teej Our reactions to different stimuli are often based on previous experiences and the effects they have on us - so however you are feeling and whatever you are thinking are not just ground in the past but also your very valid reactions to those memories. Whether you finish the book or not you have a lot you can already talk about. Not finishing the book probably says just as much to your therapist as finishing it does. If it is having that reaction from you then there is obviously already a lot you need to work through - occasionally it says more about us when we need to stop something as much as it does when we continue - so do what is right for you to look after yourself.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Sending hugs @Teej . I agree that it's probably best to discuss how you are feeling with the psychologist, especially since the book seems to be triggering a lot for you to the extent of SI. If it were me I'd shelve it until after that discussion, but I also like the suggestion of reading it with the psychologist.
Self-blame is a beast - it took me many years until not so long ago to stop feeling it so hard and so often. I am sure you've always done your best with what you knew at the time, and also that it's not your fault. "Not your fault" are some of the most powerful words I've ever heard. I've found that I have to accept there are some parts of my life I'll never truly put together, and the best I can do is try to let them go, accept I'll never finish that particular part of the jigsaw.
Sending lots of love xx
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