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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Hey @CheerBear I'll give it some due consideration and try to answer you later today.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohhhhhhhh hugs @CheerBear 
hugs @TheVorticon , @eth , @frog , @Bimby2 , @Teej
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ethSenior Contributor
Hey @CheerBear for me it's been a whole bunch of things put together. And accepting that I won't be the same person I was before it happened - some things change us forever. The interview I did this morning went for 1 1/2 hours and about half of it was focussed on what helps with recovery. Plus it's up to you what 'recovery' actually means. I posted a definition of it that works for me over on the 'Anyone started with the NDIS' page yesterday. So for me it's been important to be in a safe living situation well away from the perpetrator, have a support team - both professional (GP, psychologist and psychiatrist) and (I'm lucky to have) 'informal' supports in my case my bro and sil in particular and currently support workers to go out with (gradual exposure), and a combination of meds, therapy and behaviour changes (e.g. ceasing to self-medicate, not engaging in risky behaviours). Plus education about the cycles of violence, recognizing red flags, what trust requires, how to understand the many different forms dv can take and more. I did a course called Living Beyond Abuse at the local womens centre. And my (now adult) child has had a fair bit of therapy too. Lots of work to overcome guilt and shame and self-blame there for me. And I'm having CBT, DBT and EMDR therapy which seems to be lessening the frequency and intensity of triggers. I recover from them a bit faster too. And always adding to my list of self-care activities.
So like I said, a little bit of a whole lot of things.
I should say that I am absolutely still a work in progress even with all the above. Very much hoping some of this is helpful to you. I also talked about how much the forums help (told her they are strictly anonymous, as is the study she's doing). You always have my support if you want to talk more.
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohhhh tender hugs @TheVorticon
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TeejSenior Contributor
Hi @Shaz51 , @TheVorticon , @eth , @CheerBear , @frog , @Bimby2 and all.
I just wanted to say hi 👋🏻
@TheVorticon Sorry to read you’ve had a rough week.
I have crashed a bit too. My mood is ok if that makes sense but the volcano bubbling underneath is feeling a bit worrysome.
Im ok just trying to hold on and find my feet again. My brain is on a bit of a overthinking and really intense spree so I’m sorry if that is coming across. So hoping tomorrow is a bit better.
Heres hoping everyones friday night has some good in it.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
@CheerBear yeah an indefinite break from seeing my psych.
Yep I've still been playing Pogo but mostly when I get public transport or walk to the shops
Edit : fighting my phone at the moment and it posted too early.
I'm pleased to hear how much fun you've been having playing games lately 🙂 And I bet your kids enjoy getting to play them with you and the challenge of trying to win 😉
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