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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Oh I’ll have to have a read @eth . That is no good at all re boofhead causing trouble. I’m so pleased that you are excited at the cg news. It hasn’t hit home for me yet in a real way.
Irl I’m feeling that calm before the storm feeling. This afternoon I put my head in the sand with the tricky property stuff I have to face. It’s helped preserve some sense of sanity. I have been struggling more that I thought I was with it all. It’s coming out in my dreams quite vividly.
It felt good to get my first surgery appointment out the way now and understand the timeframe. It’s longer than I thought.
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ethSenior Contributor
@Teej I did see a reference to surgery for you a few pages ago but haven't caught up with the details. Can I ask or is it something you don't want to talk about. I can understand it's an extra pressure you don't really need at this time which is already challenging enough, but hope it will give you some relief when it's dealt with. I've only been through a property division once and all I ended up with was 4 horses I couldn't afford to keep and a vintage motorbike - all of which my mum sold for a pittance when I was unwell. Long time ago but it's always been a thorn in my side. So I feel for you going through that too. Sounds like this afternoon was actually some protective self-care. We all need to switch off sometimes.
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TeejSenior Contributor
I think I’m starting to learn about protective self care @eth . It’s taken a long time. I’m ok with you asking. I have two surgical appointments, one today for a breast reduction and one next week because I need a benign cyst on my ovary that needs to come out at some stage this year. It’s a really common one and a simple procedure. The breast reduction is a much bigger operation and 3 to 4 days stay in hospital . It will help me immensely though to have it done. I’m about to read the rave thread now. .....I’m getting there 😘
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ethSenior Contributor
I hope that both procedures work out really well for you @Teej . My adult child (I raised a girl who is now transgender) is having 'top surgery' in less than a month - double mastectomy by choice. I want to give them all the support I can and will go stay with them when they get home to do post-op support, but I have to say there are aspects of the whole thing that are of great concern to me. But they are 30yo and making their own choices so as to live their authentic self ...... and I love them so am doing my best to give unconditional support. Especially to help with the 2 children aged 5 years and 8 months during the recovery period.
I need to go off-line now and have some wind down time before bed but I look forward to more of our renewed connection.
Take good care xx Eth
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TeejSenior Contributor
That’s such a tough gig @eth . Mine is elective surgery but for medical reasons as such....they are just tooo damn big! and painful and uncomfortable and and and...
you are such an amazing mum. I hope it goes ok for them. Maybe there is a silver lining in that you get to spend time with your precious littles.
Goodnight (I’d imagine that I’ve missed you for now) and best wishes. 💜🤗
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Unknown userMember
How's it going everyone?
Winter is approaching and it is one of those nights.
Hope you are all taking care of yourselves.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Hey @Former-Member 👋🏻 it is a freezing night.
How are you going?
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Starting to shoot webs out of my forearms @CheerBear to catch you. Ok if you can’t talk too. Be warned I’ll just keep sending silly messages to hope that you’ll smile 💜🤗😘
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TeejSenior Contributor
Oops. Thanks for the check in. Goodnight @CheerBear Good luck for tomorrow.
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