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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Argggh big girl pants slipping. Need more elastic 😏. Brain fading. I’m ok. Not in crisis but feeling out of my depth and self doubt creeping in. Big decisions to be made I’m struggling to know what to do 🤬.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hearing you @Teej ......
Can that girlfriend of yours provide some emergency elastic ? Maybe text her again ?
And maybe see if you can break some of the decisions and processes down into smaller and smaller steps, so you are inching forward ? A belly-crawl will do it even ......
Big breath, and remember the mantra ..... “Press scary button then bury head in sand ...... press scary button then bury head in sand ..... “
You can do this.
I actually hope you won’t be walking me through this at some future time, but know that I am proud of you, and here for you ❣️
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
No I don’t want to be walking through this with you @Faith-and-Hope . I think I might need to sos my girlfriend. There is a very very big thing that is happening and coinciding that I can’t talk about but it is definitely adding layers. It about my rock trying so hard to be my rock while they are walking through hell. It’s bringing lots of wanting to grab them out of hell because they don’t deserve this. I’m feeling a bit helpless about it all. Fixit brain keeps going in overdrive too.
Thank you you for being voice of reason. I was trying so hard to not fall into old ways but haven’t quite developed new ones yet either. So when the very big feelings came today, followed by self loathing it was a little bit scary realising I didn’t know what to do. I’ve pressed the big scary button twice today but have two more to do. Need to take dog for a walk now so I’m hoping that will help to alleviate some of the twistiness.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @CheerBear 💜🤗😘 I’m not so good with being on the other end of the 'you’ve got this' messages yet. It’s a work in progress. It’s so much easier to see it in others than myself.
@Faith-and-Hope I meant for your sake I don’t want to walk through this with you because there has been a good outcome. 💜🤗😘
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Getting physical does usually help @Teej . It burns up stress-produced adrenaline or something .....
Controlled breathing makes a big difference too.
And keeping a pit of pencils next to an adult colouring book.
Its like splitting your attention reduces the pressure, as long as it’s not too many things at once, and a soothing activity.
Hugs ❣️
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I got what you meant @Teej , but thanks for clarifying. While I hope it does work out for us, I am acutely aware of you and others for whom things are working out a different way ...... it all takes getting our brave on, no matter which way it swings ....
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
💜 @Teej ....
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
How are you doing @Teej ?
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