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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
I am taking meds and winding down for now.
@CheerBear I have a fear that I will have a strange dream like yours tonight (but obviously different). I know subconsciously I am hurting just now because he is probably in a world of pain right now. I hope you sleep without those difficult dreams.
Sweet dreams to all.💜🤗😴
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I hope it goes well
and you have the best recovery too @Teej 💜
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @oceangirl . I’ve been on the waiting list about 2.5 years I think. It may even be 3.5 years.
I hope your friends surgery goes well too.
Heading off for the night now in an attempt to find human and achieve some goals tomorrow
hugs 💜🤗
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Goodnight @Teej .💜
Sometimes pain is a healer Hon. Some people have never been told no, or made accountable for anything, so telling them no and giving them boundaries can be a kindness of sorts, despite the pain it can cause. Within himself he will know what your entitlements are, it’s just that his sense of entitlement will get in the way, I’m thinking ...... and it’s not good for people who go through life taking from others without care to not be made accountable, if that makes sense ...... we all need boundaries and a commitment to respecting others. You are holding boundaries, and respecting your sons by doing this.
Gently, gently. You’ve got this @Teej ..... 💐💕
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
I hope you have a bad dream free night @Teej. I want to say something about his pain not being your responsibility but I get that it's incredibly complicated. I'll leave you with big hugs instead.
I'm also lights off-ing now too. Night (all).
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Night @CheerBear .....
I would have said the same thing, but didn’t, for the same sort of reason .....
Love and hugs, and I hope y’all sleep well.
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
Your welcome @Teej
Fingers crossed, you get both done soon
Thanks for the well wishes for my friend
I hope you sleep well
I just had a warm shower and washed my hair
And I have chicken heating up in the oven
I can't remember what I have planned of the top of my head for tomorrow.
I know Wednesday I have surgeons appointment
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
@CheerBear 👍💕
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I understand completely, at least from my own perspective @CheerBear , and have struggled with the same sorts of feelings about the same sorts of stuff.
To me, the perspecttive you are taking is a wise and somewhat healing one, but the scars remain as reminders of something that was cherished that we are not in control of. I think we all wonder whether we could have done better, those of us with compassion and conscience, but whether we could have or couldn’t have becomes irrelevant in terms of things written into the past.
As you rightfully said, it can make a positive difference to help support things, perhaps differently, in the here and now, and the future that becomes the here and now ...... bearing in mind that as trauma is often the result of complex injuries across time, so circumstances that go wonky or wobbly are usually the same ..... the result of multiple circumstances, relationships, people ...... and there is only so much we can ever, or possibly should, control.
Doesn’t exactly help that the boundaries can be very blurry too.
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