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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
❤️🌈🌹 @CheerBear ......
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outlanderSenior Contributor
@CheerBear im just at work so i dont have to much time but have had a little read and just adding to the voices that would miss you heaps and do now but understand you cant be here right now. Like others im hoping its nothing ive said but if there has been im more then ok to discuss it with you (or anything else you need)
Thinking of you lots and hoping some things are still going ok with your school stuff too.
Big hugs and much love for the teariness and tough stuff @Faith-and-Hope
Great to hear your your voting got done and your big girl pants are still on @Teej
Thinking of you all but have to go now. My breaks almost over
💜💜💜
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I definitely feel close to you @CheerBear , and hiccups are part of any relationship that is close enough to feel them .....
Hugs n hugs 💐💕
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
💙🌷 @outlander ....
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TeejSenior Contributor
Some more observations @CheerBear, @Faith-and-Hope and all reading. These are just my observations from my experiences.
The forum is such a complex beast. It is something I struggle with lots although am starting to work through what is important for me. In my early experiences I tried so hard to be wholly inclusive. I’d try to even monitor who I had missed. I read every post every day.
When I was in crisis mode (which was always intense and frequent) I gradually became exclusive in that it got to a point that others would tag @Faith-and-Hope knowing she would be the one to help and part of that was true. There were always just a couple that would help support me. It kind of becomes like a support team. It is built from knowing what works for you. I’m pretty sure we can all see quite obvious support teams through the forum. I think we tend to see how one member (1) has helped another member (2) and then maybe assume that Member1 is the best support for member2. I know I’ve done that in the past and still do. That part I’d imagine feels a bit exclusive to new members and others trying to build their support team. I’m not sure how this is resolved though. I honestly don’t think that it’s because we don’t care but because we see others that we think are more helpful.
@CheerBear I suspect there is a great deal of that happening with you and I. I am also making an assumption here that may not be correct from your side.
I think it leaves us all feeling both a strong connection to some but maybe isolated or not good enough for others (my words and thoughts relating to me). It is also compounded so much when we all happen to be having periods of our own personal distress and are focussed more inwards. It sometimes means that support is not given as we need and that we don’t support as much as we have before.
I have gone through so many stages on the forum over the years. I’ve learned so much. I’ve carried so many peoples pain, ive shared some really vulnerable stuff and been honoured to share others, I’ve laughed, been proud of members, celebrated with them and so it goes on. For a long time the forum was my life. Much of my sense of worth came through the forum. I’ve also struggled immensely with my chameleon traits and having different needs. For me it’s a work in progress. I still have moments of feeling like I don’t belong here and get angry at myself for things I think I have done wrong. I’m trying to ride that wave better. I also strongly believe that when we communicate the hard stuff (like conflict or feelings about a response that have hurt us) we all grow and become a stronger community. That’s my soap box talk for today!
So many hugs for all that need it.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I think there is a lot in that post that I could have written @Teej ..... there are a lot of levels and overlays here, and I think for the most part we are all doing the best we know how, most of the time.
Sitting with you here .... along with anyone else who wants to / is able to .....
💐💕
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope 💜🤗😘
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks too @outlander . I hope work is going ok. 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I have felt the winds of change blowing @CheerBear , and do t know what to do about it, other than hold tight and hope they don’t loosen things up too much ..... I hope that is cryptically somewhat helpful, if only in solidarity .....
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