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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
I’m wondering if you had an answer to my last post @CheerBear . Likewise you have been a big part of my trying to climb out of my hole. 💜🤗
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TeejSenior Contributor
I think I want to share what I feel anyway. It’s not so much fixit brain but more a life observation. @CheerBear . Some people become known as 'the rock'. They seem confident and able to handle things that come their way. I have a friend who is a rock to everyone but that makes it pretty full on and no one considers how she is going (which is 99% fine most of the time) but she is human and has her needs to be met at times too. I think on here you are often seen as our rock. From where you sit it probably doesn’t feel it. I don’t know that I have an answer to that but I think you are right and it is about communicating. Since I’ve been going ok I have felt a bit of a disconnect here as well which I know I have to work through. I’m pretty confident you can have your needs met here too. I’m happy to edit this if you’d like.
Edited to say needs met sounds a bit full on but it is the base of schema therapy and what my therapist comes back to all the time.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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lolaSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
It’s ok @CheerBear . I want to help but I don’t want you to put that pressure on yourself. I understand it. I’m thinking there might be some other channels to talk through your feelings about it if that is a helpful thing to do.
Im here now in the hole with you sharing those really big feels and sharing my blanky with you. I will always believe in you. You hopes and dreams are something to hold on to. You will and already do make a difference in this world. 💜🤗
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @CheerBear @Teej 👋
I have had a very busy time of it, running west to nurse an in-hospital baby dragon, then back east to try to recover from a week of missed classes, and somewhere in there I think I have missed a bit hurt for you too.
I have been reading when you are here and posting, and hoping to pick up the gist of it without pressuring you, and hoping to God that I haven’t hurt you in some way cos I definitely have a klutzy side ...... and I would like to think someone would let me know if it was me .....
I have definitely felt your not-presence here, like I am definitely missing others, one most recently and hard-felt ..... and it’s all hard, but sometimes it’s space that is required, and sometimes not, and it can be really hard to know ......
I’m a bit leaky at the moment too, with what is slipping away in the west, and sitting with “what’s next ?” and “how do I do this ?” None of that stops me from missing you, holding you close in my thoughts, and waiting for something I can respond to with any confidence ..... so in the meantime, here are some unicorn flowers and a hug.
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TeejSenior Contributor
And yes @Faith-and-Hope you are a rock here too 💜, and have been another of my rocks for soooo long now. Huge hugs to you for all that sometimes gets taken for granted for you too.
💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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